[susan_bryant]

Help!! My husband cheated on me (snipped by mod) !! When I found out he tried to calm me down but I was so hurt and angry with him, and when I asked him does he Love her he said "sorry It has to be this way, but yes, I do." I spit in his face, I know my husband likes these (snipped by mod) young 21 year old girls with gritty butts and thighs that he like to rub his ding-a-ling against while having sex with them. Hes a true dog!! What should I do???

[ocularone]

that he like to rub his ding-a-ling against while having sex with them.

I don't think i have heard dingaling since the third grade..haha

Seriously though, i am sorry this is happening to you. I think the answer is fairly simple and probably more obvious to someone who isn't emotionally attached to the situation. Your husband has not only cheated on you sexually..but loves another woman. That pretty much seals the deal (to me anyways) that it would be nearly impossible to maintain a relationship with this man. Does he even still love you? Do you love him? I hate the idea of divorce but this just may be time for you two to move on from each other.

[maverick]

First thing to do is calm down. From your writing you sound hurt and a bit irrational. Throwing slurs at the girl will solve nothing. After all, it takes two to tango, so your husband is at least at much at fault as her. Leave your house or apartment, take the day off work, do something unrelated to your relationship with your husband, and don't try to address this problem now. Things will look differently after you give your emotions a day or two to recover.

Having said that, if your husband was serious about being in love with his new friend, he has already made the decision for you. All you have to do is move on with your life. Get a lawyer you trust to guide you.

[Hopeless Dork]

Would it have hurt less if it was a girl the same nationality as you? Would it have hurt less if she were the same age as you?

I understand you are hurting but you are coming off as insulting to puerto rican girls, aged 21 girls, and certain body types when that is not where your anger should lie.

Your husband said he loves this other woman. What should you do? What can you do? You can stay with a husband that cheats and loves some other woman, but if he admits loving her... chances are he might be leaving.

There isn't anything you can really do, and spitting in his face won't help. It won't make him love you more and her less. It hurts. He cheated, he thinks he's fallen in love. It seem you have no choice , other than to suggest marriage counseling to him, than to let him go.

Was it the first time he cheated? How was your marriage outside of you finding out about this? Were you even really happy?