[momoffive]

I am lucky enough to be a stay at home mom. My husband works long hours so that I don't have to. Sometimes he is gone for days at a time, so the only contact we have is when he calls home. Here lately he's been very busy and I feel ignored. When I call his cellphone sometimes I don't even get a word in and he tells me he;s on the phone with someone from work and he'll call later. Today he is in town for a doctors appointment and to have a lunch date with his new boss. It's 2 o'clock and I haven't heard from him all day. When he is home he's on his computer or on his cell phone. Last week I was at Wal Mart and saw a good looking guy. Now I find reasons to go just to see him. I think about him all day long. I want to talk to him but I know it's just me needing attention. What do I do?

[tinkerbell930]

Another man isn't the answer. I know what loneliness is and been through all that other man stuff. My ex-husband and I both cheated on each other (we were married for 13 years, had 3 kids, brand new home-but "lonlieness" was our excuse) it all fell apart. Talk to your husband about how you feel. If he is working hard I am sure he is lonely for you too. Keep talking to us online. I will personally listen to anything you want to talk about. I am sorry you are lonely, but another man is a huge mistake. Friends, church, libraries, museums, your kids, volunteer at their school, will get you out of the house and help with that!!!! Unless you want a divorce, another man will never be the answer. I am remarried and learned a valueable lesson. My new husband is really busy too....he owns his own business, avid hunter/fisher, and spends lots of time with his father. We often have tension because of the time I want with him....but I will NEVER turn to another man again. I will be single and alone/lonely before putting someone through that again. I learned that what comes around goes around. It was not a fun lesson. We both hurt and things could have been prevented if we had told each other what we really needed and MADE the other person do something about it, not just talk about it.

[indecisive]

I agree with Tinkerbell. You need to let your husband know how you feel and then if things do not get better and you still feel the urge to find attention from another man then I would say you are ready to move on and get a divorce. I am recently divorced and realized that I was really unhappy in my marriage and I had alot of talks with my husband who would constantly say he will get better or try to stop doing the things that I didn't like but unfortunately he was unable to do and I just became more and more miserable and now I am so much happier by myself and getting attention from good friends when I have the time. I also have a child like you which does make it more difficult to find time for yourself. You have to do what makes you happy and cheating is only going to make you happy for the moment and then later on you will have the guilt to live with. Good Luck to you.

[minimouse]

Tinkerbell said it all in one.

I was lonely in my marriage and i also turned to another man, not for love but for the sake that he was there and listened to me and had a laugh, which was something me and my husband didnt do. I'm still with him, and still lonely this time bcause i have no friends.

If only life was pefect but it never is. otheriwse it would nt be a test!

Please don't turn to another man, i had to start from scratch with my marriage once my hsband foun out and it was the most difficult thing ive ever done in my life. I had to work years on regaining his trust

Do what I DIDN'T do! and talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. make a meal for him and give him a massage, get into your sexiest lingerie and sweet talk to him. (it will get his attention!) Then jst try a baby doll tone and tell him how much you miss him and want more time with him.

He's been at work all day so he will be exhausted and nagging will not be the way.

and yes I do watch alot of hollywood movies, just not porno ones LMAO

[CHANDLERS WISH]

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