[mommyof3wifeof1]

Hello, Iam new to Women's Health. Iam a mother of 3 woderful children, and been married for 5 years to a wonderful loving man. Here lately I have felt like there si something missing. I have found that my husband has been talking to other women and looking at porn and not me. i have delt with it and looked the other way, but i can no longer do that. I am hurt and feel i have no where to turn with noone to talk to. He has talked to all my friends in ways that were more then the friendly hi how are you way. they have exchanged photos of each other. i was hopeing to be able to get something off my chest her on womens health.

[Olympia]

mommyof3wifeof1,
1st Welcome to the community!

You mention you have found your husband talking and exchanging photos with other women including friends.. And tried looking the other way.. Have you communicated your knowledge of this and your feelings? If not, what is holding you back..?
Does he talk to your friends with you present..? Have your friends discussed this with you?

[baja]

I agree, you definitely need to confront him directly with the behavior. If you don't, it will continue and possibly get even worse. If he cares, he'll listen, apologize, stop and put you & your kids back into the center his life. Be strong.

[rcoreyus]

How is your sex life? Might he be doing this to avoid a problem at home?

I think that "confront" is the wrong idea. I'd suggest first trying to understand WHY he is doing this. Much better to remove the motivation than try to "make" him stop.

[Wishful]

Welcome! I am pretty new to this too. Someone once told me that fools give the best advice, so hopefully, I can give some to you. In the last several months, I have found out that including my own husband, many, many, many men will often choose porn over the company of their spouses. I think that, especially because of the internet, guys have the ability to frequent these sites more than in the past when they had to hide a playboy here and there. However, actually making passes at other women including your friends... maybe it's because he needs his confidence boosted. The thing is, if he's becoming innappropriately friendly, which to me is anything that makes you uncomfortable, you definitely need to address that issue. Let's face it, guys are going to look at porn until their eyeballs wither away with the rest of their bodies. But causing you to second guess yourself because of his actions, that's not okay. I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate it at all if the shoe was on the other foot. What is he saying to your friends and other women, and what type of pictures are being shared? Do you think he is fond of anyone in particular, and do you feel as though something as already or is soon to happen?