[Guest]

"A husband asking his eife to have sex with other men"

How do you feel about it? Lots of people have replied to your thread, but you have said nothing about how YOU feel about it.

If the woman I love asked me to have sex with other women, I'd tell her that I'm not interested in doing so.

Seems pretty simple and straightforward to me.

[Moa]

I'd be shocked and worried if my husband asked me that. I'd never agree. But obviously people are different.

[sallyskellington]

I think you need to get to the bottom of why he asked you to do this. Is it a voyeur fantasy kind of thing? Talk to him about it, ask the why's and express how you feel on the matter if you are ok with it set guidelines and make sure he is able to do this with no lasting jealousy or resentment. If you are not ok with it, tell him.. and like I said find out why he wants you to do it. Maybe you can come to some kind of resolution. Good luck

[SaharaJim]

Google; Cuckoldry. There is a lot of information and I think you need to be aware of the psychological implications for your partner. It is something the two of you need to discuss carefully and understand the motivations for the request. If everyone is 'comfortable' with this...then I certainly don't want to sound 'judgmental or condemning' but it isn't something I would do.

[Allie602]

I would not worry so much about his motives although it seems a man who wants to see his wife passed around to be used by other men for his pleasure no longer loves her and regards as a useful sex object to satisfy his porn fantasies.

He seems to see you as his property to be used as he sees fit, and not as a partner who he loves and respects. What do you feel, does this seem to be what is going on? Did you marry him knowing that he wanted to use you as an object to pass around? Do you think he got married knowing that he wanted to have someone to use in this way but did not tell you? Doesn't seem fair if you did not know he had these plans, to pull this on you since you obviously believe in monogamy as evidenced by your marriage.

If he wanted a woman to pass around he should not have deceived to get married and lying about his commitment to monogamy. He should have found a woman who likes these types of things. Normal men are territorial when it comes to the woman they love, they usually cannot imagine another man having sex with her. He does not seem to have those territorial boundaries therefore, in my opinion, he does not think that you are anyone special and he does not care what happens to you, physically or emotionally.

I hope you get out of this relationship. I don't think these obsessions go away. In fact, I think they may become more extreme when he becomes bored. He may want to have you have sex with multiple men next, it's hard to tell where this is going. Read up on it so you know what you are dealing with and if you agree to be used for his pleasure.

To answer your question most emphatically no, this is abnormal. If he is telling you it is that this is normal he is lying to manipulate you. He will not stop trying probably.