[ren_07]

I honestly don't think you should internalize this as him preferring porn over you. He's treating it like an activity to unwind, not a way to live fantasies you're not meeting the expectations of (need I remind you that you're pregnant with his child for a reason haha). I agree with the first post and it seems you've already took some of the advice to express you're feelings to him about it. Ever try compromising and watching porn together?

[whit4488]

you need to take care of yourself first of off. you have insecurities about how you look within yourself, then do things that will make you feel better about your appearance, get a trendy haircut and color...go tanning, buy a new push-up bra, get a new sexy dress..buy some sexy lingerie, spice up your sex life. dont try to look like the plastic girls he see's online, be who you are! and alter things accordingly to how you would like to see yourself look . he must be attracted to you, hes married to you and you are 4 months pregnant! you need to work out your insecurities. most men do watch porn from time to time (its their fantasy world) you can talk to him about it and say you dont feel comfortable with him watching it, and if he respects you...he would be understanding of that...if not, then this could certainly cause marital disaster if you cant accept it(which to me sounds like thats not something your comforable with) good luck honey

[Lyn]

Well done in discussing it with your husband and coming up with a compromise that you both can live with. Sounds good to me

[Chas]

It is good that your partner is honest in telling you he may look at porn away from the home, at least he is not lying about it and looking at it behind your back....

Porn can become a big addiction and a bigger obsession if one is not careful. Porn definately distorts the way we percieve sex today in a big way and I fail to see how degrading women {most do} can be a good healthy stimulus for people.

I'm going to agree with spurzzz on this one. IMO, porn can be very dangerous to a relationship. Porn portrays a very unrealistic view of women and what they want and need in a relationship. I agree that you should seek counselling together. You are only pregnant a very small portion of your life. My advice to him would be to enjoy the changes to your body while they are there. How great it is to experience a pregnancy together.

One of my favorite and most comical memories of my marriage is the day I came home from work to find my 8 1/2 month pregnant wife laying on the bed naked while reading Jane Seymour's "Guide to Romantic Living." We both got a good laugh out of it.