[janetalm]

Today is my 3rd anniversary and I have found several accounts where my husband has been in contact with several transvestites. Im so tired of all the lies and hours spent on the computer "playing games". Im the one who's been played. I have a termanal disease and have tried my best to keep him happy even at risk to my health. Ive done things for him Im not proud of but was afraid of dieing alone. Now this. What do I do ? I have no money of my own and no one else to turn to. I have lost all pride I had.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

jane this is a thread of total hurt, destruction, pain and really only has a few words to go by so it's hard to reply.

I am so sorry for what you are going through this is a time where you need to feel safe, loved and to have to have this going on, well I am at a loss for words.

You know, there are people in this world that do love and do care, this man? Obviously isn't even thinking of what is happening to you.

Who else do you have, family, friends?

At any event you have us.

Please come back and tell us a bit more, we are here for you

CW

[Mes T]

I don't have anything to add to CW's post except that I agree with it all - I hope you come back and tell us more, we are here for you! Do you have anyone else close to you in your life?

[Ashlee T.]

Wondering about you, as you never returned to read the responses, or perhaps you did and didn't respond. What you're going through is so very difficult, and we are all here for you to listen, to offer words of wisdom and advice, or just to be a listening ear.

I would rather die "alone" than to die in the presence of a partner who made me feel alone and who filled my life with lies and lack of compassion. It's important to make the best out of the life you have, and not fill it with negativity and hurt and fighting. HE is NOT worth it. This is your life, your time. There are worse things than dying without a spouse.

[Exphailure]

So sorry.

Really sorry to hear this... it really sucks (what an understatement) when you find something like this out.

In any case we're all stronger than we think, and while you might feel like you couldn't possibly stand up to your husband you can, and that's what I suggest. You've lost all your dignity and pride over the years and if anything could, telling him exactly what you feel could give that back to you.

If I were in your shoes I'd wait only long enough for the initial shock to subside so fury can come in and take over.