[orchiddreams]

There is nothing wrong with being friends or to act as a mentor to children. There is something wrong with sleeping, cuddling, and showering with adolescents. I don't care what race or ethnicity- most adult men will not put themselves in a position for someone to misconstrue the situation for something it may not be.

Your husband is manipulating you by making you think something is wrong with you. This poor girl may have been sent away for the very same treatment she may be seeing in your home.

You had better not leave her alone with him. I'm not sure what the rules and regulations are in your country but you need to find out exactly what is going on and involve authorities if it is necessary. Getting rid of a helpless girl will not solve the problem. Do you need to worry about his pedophiliac tendencies with every child he may Come in contact with?

[stressed]

I agree with the others. Fathers don't act like that, let alone men who're not even step-fathers. Daughters don't act like that either (naked outside the bathroom? Never, not even if it's only the mother who's at home at the time).

It's either that your husband is blindly naive and sees her as his daughter (and still acts inappropriately anyway, you wouldn't want him to behave like that with your daughter either) or she's taking advantage of him and hopes he'll save her by adopting her and taking her with him to USA.

It's wrong and this girl has to live with another family. Them two seem to have many discussions (the wonder-bra one, why talk about that with him and not you? Are they 'that' close?).

Whether this girl stays or not, this gives you something to think about your husband and his values. He puts a teenager, neither of you responsible of, above you and above your marriage. He calls you jealous instead of discussing it with you. Who's to say it won't happen again over somebody else, teenager or adult or a different situation.