[grrrr]

I'm kind at my wits end. I love my faux hubs, but there is such a lack of everything. Intimacy, SEX! I don't even want sex anymore- background quick - he needs the "blue pill" - but there's no romance. I watch him yank and then hear "get on top" - ummmmm... That's awesome. Am I insane for being a little annoyed at this? I think I'm mad at the blue pill... I have no desire or respect for sex any more. I'm really sad and upset about this - am I really this pathetic?

To answer questions: yes, it's always wanking followed by "will you get on top?" no regard for me. Is it bad to think of me knowing his limitations?J

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well Grrrrr.... here is my thought...

The reason you take the little blue pill is to please your partner instead of not being able to get it up yes?

The reason why a man wanks as you put it Then tells you to get on top is all for his own self pleasure is it not?

So what are you going to do about it?

[Maximus]

Not having experienced the effects of the blue pill, nor the erectile dysfunction I will try nonetheless to chime in...

From your account, it seems as though the love making has disappeared and gave way to sex only intercourse.
With a man suffering from erectile dysfunction, I can imagine that several things got into the way (shame, perception that one has lost his manhood, etc...), and yet the desire is there. That's where the blue pill come to play (no pun intended), but there is rush into it, as one can't tell how long its effect will last...

If I may say, the "primitive" perception that sex for the man only exists along the shaft can be erased once he realizes that it's first and foremost an energy...

If I were him, I would let go of the sex thing (for a while) and focus on mastering the love making tools and techniques, such tantra.
The "mechanical" part of sex will only benefit from a broader perspective provided by tantra, and a better connection between you both.

All the best !

[grrrr]

I hate my iPod - my response was deleted. Grrrrrrrrrr.

CW I have to say that you're right, it really is about him, and that's annoying.

Max, you are right too!! He has to let go in some sense as well. Frankly I'd be ok with pills if there was some play before- I shouldn't have to do it all !!!!!

CW- I get it, It is selfish, but I don't think he gets that there are two people involved...

I feel like such an *** - I give advice, but who am I to dispense it when I'm so stuck??

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Did you just go behind the profanity filter? Banned

Make him realise, absense makes the heart grow fonder, giving everything a person can take.. Look deep inside yourself.

And hun, today I wrote somewhere else cause CW has no whoes, a whole heep of whoes about how I am feeling overwhelmed, so you know, we dispense but we also need

My advise is this..

NO say no... A relationship is about love ,bonding, intimacy you can not have it all your way, want me in your life? Then go and have a think..

What we stand to lose we often fight for