I hav been married for past 8 months n hav had hundreds of issues to deal wid in dis period. Ours was an arranged marriage ... Gt two months break Ben engagement n marriage. After wedding, my husband used to regularly come home at 2 in d night dat to totally drunk. Wid time n me fighting over issues things hav improved... But most f d times I still hav to force my husband to cum home. He doesnt care abt me or my life, whether i m sick or upset makes no diff to him. He comes home to avoid fights .... He is loyal, but still wants to live d life of 18 year old nd hates d fact dat marriage has ruined his party everyday life.... Comes from a rich family so has thousands to squander each night. I m in a dilemma whether to hang on to dis marriage or no. We hav no bonding to each other n r still sticking around coz of our families
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What culture do you come from? Would there be harsh repercussions if you divorced him?
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Who arranged this marriage? In some cultures it is the grandmothers who do most of the arranging, in others the girls are promised to the families of the boys from an early age, so few of the characteristics of the man each boy becomes are known.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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If you both really don't want to be married and don't have any bond and are both so un-happy, why not, whilst you work out how to get out of the marriage due to it being arranged, talk to each other and be straight forward about it and be "house mates" when at home and don't entertain the meaning of marraige for now...
Sometimes when thrown into things, no one is happy, but by being friends and putting up a front, who is to say you both won't start to be exactly that? Friends and who is to say you wont, start to actually like each other..
CWPUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!Comment
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