There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn.
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I know. I'm starting to wonder if I was viewing his as being better than he is. Not like that. But I met this guy, and to me, he was "perfect". I know he has done things, like all of us. I just think I may have held him too highly in my mind. He is just a guy, even though he certainly is more respectful than most. He's still male.[COLOR="#000000"][FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=2][I]"Hurt myself again today and the worst part is there's no one else to blame."[/I][/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR]Comment
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Update!
I'm on the phone with my fiance and it's going great!
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it's not about being a "guy" or being "male" (that's actually kinda sexist to say), it's about being human. I'm going to wax philosophic here for a moment...
We're flawed beings. Our world is flawed, and the acceptance, appreciation, and love of that is beautiful.
"There are no 'good' or 'bad' people. Some are a little better or a little worse, but all are activated more by misunderstanding than malice. A blindness to what is going on in each other's hearts... nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see ...each other in life. Vanity, fear, desire, competition-- all such distortions within our own egos-- condition our vision of those in relation to us. Add to those distortions to our own egos the corresponding distortions in the egos of others, and you see how cloudy the glass must become through which we look at each other. That's how it is in all living relationships except when there is that rare case of two people who love intensely enough to burn through all those layer of opacity and see each other's naked hearts." - Tennessee WilliamsComment
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He's still HUMAN.
He'll mess up now, tomorrow and years from now and so will you. Not saying at all that you shouldn't feel any certain way, I personally am an extremely emotional person so in no way would I want you to think I'm telling you to "just get over it" cause its not that easy for some people.
Keep the past in the past, make your future more fun than he expects
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