[DreamP346]

I know you don't want to hear this, but you really need to leave this guy. Think about your children. Break the cycle. Your father was emotionally abusive to you. You married a man who is also emotionally abusive to you. Do you want your children living the same life you have? It is inevitable that they will follow the same path because you are teaching them, with your actions, that it is acceptable to be treated like a doormat by your partner. Just take a step back. Image your kids partner treating them the way your husband treats you. What would you do? Would you think that was OK? Please please please leave. If not for yourself, for your children.

[DreamP346]

Here is some practical advise. Contact a battered women's shelter and start talking with somebody there about your options. Maybe even look into social services. Open a secret bank account and start saving money into it. Whose name is the house/apt you stay in under? If it is yours, kick him out and let the police know that you are in fear of him hurting you. They may be able to get a restraining order against you. Next time he does something that causes bruises, report it right away and make sure they document the bruises. The women's shether will be able to provide you advise on how to leave. Gool luck.

[Hugo-B]

Here is some practical advise. Contact a battered women's shelter and start talking with somebody there about your options. Maybe even look into social services. Open a secret bank account and start saving money into it. Whose name is the house/apt you stay in under? If it is yours, kick him out and let the police know that you are in fear of him hurting you. They may be able to get a restraining order against you. Next time he does something that causes bruises, report it right away and make sure they document the bruises. The women's shether will be able to provide you advise on how to leave. Gool luck.

Any bruising take a photo of it with you holding that day's newspaper. Hopefully the collection of pictures wont get to big but each one will very much work in your favor if things reach the litigation stage, which will hopefully be soon when you divorce him.