Ok so I need some help here girls! I was on our family's main computer and I went into the family pictures to print a few out and there was a folder in there entitled "my work" so being curious as to what it was doing in the midst of pictures of my kids I went into it. Cartoon kiddie porn. Like 5 gigs of it. There was origional alice (Alice in wonderland) being plowed. There was like 10 year old girl stroking her dads member. I'm disgusted! Put his porn addiction on top of us never speaking except to fight, never playing around together, and never having sex. I am so thoroughly disgusted I just sent him packing to his parents house. I don't feel like I can trust him with my kids anymore. I will be contacting my lawyers in the morning. I don't know if I am overreacting or if this is what I should be feeling. I am in shock and don't kow what to do. Any advice?
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Do you have separate computers in the house? Like, does he have his own personal computer?
Regardless, this was on the FAMILY computer. Do the children use the computer? If so, RED FLAG. Why would he chance them finding it?
The cartoon thing is not as alarming as the 10 year old girl touching her father. I mean, I'm not saying that the Disney porn isn't strange, it is. I would just be more alarmed by the incest porn. I don't think you are in the wrong here.
If he is viewing this kind of porn, what could he be thinking? YOUR children could have eventually become victims to his strange fantasies. -
He has his iPad. And yes our two and four year olds use the computer for abc mouse.com and stuff like that. what you said is exactly what I am thinking. Thank you for your input. I'm just in so much shock that I don't kow what to do here. I'm so scared of what he might have done or been thinking about my kids.Comment
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It is understandable to be in shock and not even know what to think. This is your husband, yes? Both of your children? Or a boyfriend/husband and children from a previous marriage. I mean regardless, it doesn't matter. You love these children and he is being disgusting and could potentially harm or molest them.
You are doing right. I would have done the same thing.Comment
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I would contact the police to find out if any of the porn is illegal. Even if it isn't, I would keep the children from him until things are settled. What are your plans at this point?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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Well one is his and one isn't his. I will keep the children from him. My plans are to call the police and lawyers in the morning. It will be used in evidence in the custody case if there is one. I will not let him alone with my kids again. I'm in the middle of packing up his things for him to pick up tomorrow. I'm just disgusted. I'm glad that I'm not overreacting. I guess I just needed a bit of reassurance that I'm doing the right thing here. It's hard. I will take this one day at a time and do what is best for me and my girls.Comment
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I would get that computer in the hands of the police right away. Call and have them send someone over. If he starts thinking about it he will come back and destroy the evidence.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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I saw a story about a man sent to prison for 3 years today for having kiddie porn in the St. Louis area. It contained some sex with children images.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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Yeah good idea. I will call now.Comment
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I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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