[leesa]

Hello all,
Just wondering how many more of you face this same situation,and are all blokes the same?
The problem is my husband,constantly flirts with all my mates,to the stage now where hes making himself look a complete prat.
Dont know if he does it as a joke or does he really mean the stuff he comes out with,for example,the other day he asked my best mate to stay the night and sleep with him in our bed,that really got fireworks starting.Now my mate has it in her head that he fancies her,he also insists on driving her home each time she comes up to ours.
If he flirts the way he does in front of me i dread to think what he gets up to behind my back.Help

[mr.mansview]

Hello all,
Just wondering how many more of you face this same situation,and are all blokes the same?
The problem is my husband,constantly flirts with all my mates,to the stage now where hes making himself look a complete prat.
Dont know if he does it as a joke or does he really mean the stuff he comes out with,for example,the other day he asked my best mate to stay the night and sleep with him in our bed,that really got fireworks starting.Now my mate has it in her head that he fancies her,he also insists on driving her home each time she comes up to ours.
If he flirts the way he does in front of me i dread to think what he gets up to behind my back.Help

no not all blokes are the same..his suggestions are rather bold and i suspect that there is in fact some seriousness behind them..he is dissrespecting you by his comments in front of you..you are right to be worried about his actions when you are not around..i'd keep an eye on him..it's not being nosy, it's being aware..

[amom]

Hello all,
Just wondering how many more of you face this same situation,and are all blokes the same?
The problem is my husband,constantly flirts with all my mates,to the stage now where hes making himself look a complete prat.
Dont know if he does it as a joke or does he really mean the stuff he comes out with,for example,the other day he asked my best mate to stay the night and sleep with him in our bed,that really got fireworks starting.Now my mate has it in her head that he fancies her,he also insists on driving her home each time she comes up to ours.
If he flirts the way he does in front of me i dread to think what he gets up to behind my back.Help

I could delve into this asking you twenty questions but bottom-line is I think you need a mate who respects and loves you - not this yahoo.

[rcoreyus]

Hello all,
Just wondering how many more of you face this same situation,and are all blokes the same?
The problem is my husband,constantly flirts with all my mates,to the stage now where hes making himself look a complete prat.
Dont know if he does it as a joke or does he really mean the stuff he comes out with,for example,the other day he asked my best mate to stay the night and sleep with him in our bed,that really got fireworks starting.Now my mate has it in her head that he fancies her,he also insists on driving her home each time she comes up to ours.
If he flirts the way he does in front of me i dread to think what he gets up to behind my back.Help

I think flirting is OK, but there are rules - and inviting someone to sleep in your bed is definitely beyond them.

I always thought the game in flirting was to make the other person *think* that you are attracted to them, but never let them know for sure. No specific suggestions, certainly no touching. Basically a nice game where you make the other person feel wanted, but not pressured. And where if your SO notices, they feel amused, but not threatened.

[Dragonfly]

A friend of mine has a husband that has whistled at me and has said innappropriate things to me. It has affected my friendship with my friend and it has also made it weird being around her husband. I think that your husband has some fantasies and would like to play them out with you and these other girls. If you are not going to do a threesome with your husband and another girl stand up for yourself and tell him to stop his actions!!! He is treating you this way because you are letting him. You deserve better and tell yourself that you do. P.S. How was your relationship with your father? How did your father treat your mother?