[Something_Awesome]

Yea we have mood swings. I've had them with my girlfriend. But she's learned how to manipulate me to get me out of them real fast. When I have a mood swing, she just disregards me becoming heated over nothing and gets all sweet and affectionate with me. The bad mood swings back into the good mood almost right away. What she does it its sort of a turn on but it also has the effect of making me feel really low about having the stupid mood swing.

[richa1324]

My husband is usually very caring and loving, but whenever I have my PMS including the mood swings, his mood automatically gets bad (even though I havent told him yet) :P

[robinerikson]

Yes! Men have mood swings. They are less irritating than women, though, when they their "good mood gone bad."

[MamaaCorydoras]

My boyfriend has them regularly. I had him get upset with me once because I arrived to pick him up from work at 9:03 instead of the agreed 9:00. I agree with what has said before, that they get upset with you because you are an easy target and because they can get away with it most of the time because you love them. My boyfriend gets upset with me regularly because he knows I wont fight back. He also does it with his family for the same reason, he can get away with it. He feels really guilty later because he gets upset over stupid things, but it does happen. As mentioned earlier also, learn how you can change his mood and stick with that.

[CJ99]

I think he needs to get laid then he will be the awesome guy again.

[Paulc35]

Hi. I'm just wondering if men have pms like symptoms. Long story short my bf told me he was coming to visit me (we live 2 hrs apart) if he was feeling okay. Earlier today he texts me "I brought you some smell good" (talking about perfume or lotion). I asked him I he was on his way to see me bcuz he said brought not bought. He said "I spent money on you." "Oh okay you meant bought not brought." I told him what the difference between the two is and told him I love him. Then he got all upset with me for not texting back a thank you (for a gift I haven't received yet?) I told him I would've said thank you in person or when I received it and apologized for not saying thank you. So he texts that it's too late because he had to tell me to say thank you and that he doesn't feel good and he's going to bed. I tried to call him a few times and he didn't answer so I left a voicemail. A few days ago he did say he hadn't been feeling well but he wasn't being a jerk until today so I'm wondering if men can pms ish..,

If he is acting weird about seeing you and having sex, two things come to mind and the first one was my issue in my 30s. Tell him to have his testosterone/estrogen checked. Boy did I go through an emotional Rollercoaster. I had no desire for sex and would cry for no reason. I became very jealous (weird for me). Well, it took about 10 years for someone to say, "Hey, have you checked your testosterone?" Hmm, nope, I haven't and I did and it was almost zero. Started testosterone replacement and things improved quickly, the emotions took about a year to stabilize as I still had high estrogen. The second thought is that there may be someone else and he's playing games, or he's very immature.

[MeLuvCookies]

I get quiet and withdrawn when I get really hurt and angry at my wife. It is not mood swing. I have a legitimate reason for how I feel. It just appears like a mood swing and she things I am being moody and sulking because my other option is telling her and it is usually the same thing or some variation of it and she doesn't listen doesn't care and it will always end in a huge fight and with her temper the fights get way out of control and her response is usually not lets work on it lets compromise it is this is how I am you don't like it leave and pay me alimony and child support. So I find myself often just repressing and trying to take the high road and be quiet and avoid until I get over it. But it looks like a mood swing I'm sure.

[Alison H.]

Oh absolutely. Not sure if it's necessarily related to andropause (which is sort of an "equivalent" to menopause, in some ways), but men totally go through hormone-related mood swings. I think a lot of men don't have their hormone levels tested nearly as often women do, since once we reach a "certain" age, it's pretty standard. Men likely have to seek those tests out on their own, or have something visibly wrong that a doctor looks at and is like "Oh, we need to run some tests here."

I've noticed my husband reacts to our daughter's menstrual cycles a LOT more than I do. Like, I'm completely unaffected, but I swear, he knows when their hormones are peaking or changing, and he physically reacts to it in a similar way. When they're in PMS, so is he. LOL!

[JonnyR]

Outside of what I would consider the usual suspects -- being hungry, angry, resentful, or other common emotions that men typically repress, yes, men can have mood swings, just not as dramatically as women, or as predictably.

While I also agree the andropause is a thing -- and low T levels are an absolute nightmare for a guy in so many ways (and women too!), I think that it has more often to do with a feeling of helplessness.

Women tend to talk about these things and get them off their chest, while men would be seen as complaining, weak, or even worse, don't have someone to vent to about a lot of things.

So, it can spill over into the existing relationship, vs. being able to be de-escalated with what would often be a normal conversation or vent-sesh for women.

Whenever a man is "angry" it's often a mask for feeling vulnerable, helpless and not having control over a situation.

[Alison H.]

Whenever a man is "angry" it's often a mask for feeling vulnerable, helpless and not having control over a situation.

I can DEFINITELY see that. I know when my husband is struggling like that (loss of control or helplessness over something), he's much more likely to act in anger as a first/immediate response. Which I try not to get frustrated about of course, but it's hard because I don't know if it's a woman-thing, or just my own disposition (or maybe even both) but that's the opposite response I have. I enter problem-solving mode, instead of anger. That's my default reaction to anything... what can we do about this, let's think it through.

(But too, it takes a LOT to make me mad. Like, truly angry. There's only been a handful of times my husband or family have seen me angry about something. And apparently it's very scary... LOL)