[agadir]

I got my husband a few times watching XXX porn thru my spy ware. We've been married almost 3yrs. Sex is good. I've always been open to satisfy his sexual hunger by wearing sexy lingerie. He always seems content. However, I've discovedre I've confronted him but, he vehemently denied it. However,

[darkone]

I wouldn't fight over it right now. Just observe and see if it starts to affect sex life and his normal routine with you. And if you can log the days/time he spent doing this. Us guys think about sex a lot so at first glance I wouldn't worry about it as long as your telling the whole truth here. Sometimes this stuff could enhance sex or offend parties if it does offend you might want to let him know. So just observe for now and see how it effects him.

[Guest]

the porn is a problem.

as is your use of spyware.

get rid of it, just like you'd want him to do with the porn - and sit down with him & talk about the issues.

[commonsense]

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I got my husband a few times watching XXX porn thru my spy ware. We've been married almost 3yrs. Sex is good. I've always been open to satisfy his sexual hunger by wearing sexy lingerie. He always seems content. However, I've discovedre I've confronted him but, he vehemently denied it. However,

I really don't see a problem here. Sounds like he's very much still into you. Don't start a problem where there is none.

[Guest]

if you don't mind him watching porn & lying to you that he's watching it, then don't do anything.

if you do, however, you're not creating a problem. you're responding to the realization that you have one.

you'd be foolish to ignore it.

[kaylar]

Caroline hits the essential element.
The lying.

Lying is a VERY SERIOUS ISSUE in any relationship.

I'm not talking about the error, or the forgetting,
i.e. where he thinks he mailed that letter but
in fact mailed a different letter, or where he
forgets that he didn't mail the letter...
I'm talking about a situation in which he knows
**** well he didn't mail the letter, but starts
one series of lies to cover up.

When a husband lies; i.e. in this case about
watching porn one can be pretty sure he lies
about other things.

[kaylar]

The Dangers Of Lying



Curtis was engaged to Dawn.
They were to meet at a restaurant at
six o'clock.

Curtis saw Dawn get out of a Blue Car
and enter the restaurant.

He parked, entered, and after a few lubricated
amenities, asked;

"How'd you get here?"

"Took the Bus," Dawn replies.

"What bus?" Curtis asks.

"The bus...I don't know...the bus..."

"Let me ask you again, how did you get here?"

"I told you."

"There is no bus that runs past this restaurant."

"Um..oh, it must have been a cab."

"A taxi cab?"

"Yes."

"A yellow cab?"

"What are you asking all these questions?" Dawn snaps.

"Bear with me, I have reason. Now, was it a yellow cab?"

"Yes."

"And you are sure it was yellow?"

"Why are you asking me?"

"Just need to know; you arrived here by yellow cab."

"I told you that."

"No, you told me you arrived by bus. Then you
told me by cab."

"Curtis what is wrong with you?"

"Nothing is wrong with me, my dear. I am quite
alright now. Good bye."

"YOu just got here."

"I am not leaving the restaurant, Dawn, I am
ending our engagement. That was the goodbye."

And Curtis walked out.

That was the end of their engagement, their
relationship, for all time.

If Dawn would lie about something that could
be of no import whatsoever, and then when
caught in the 'bus' lie make a 'taxi' lie, then
Dawn is not the woman Curtis will marry.

This is the danger of lying.

[Pelle]

Careful

Be very careful if your guy is watching porn - especially the graphic type. My ex looked at really hard core porn - and after we were divorced, I found several cd roms with kiddie porn on them. Boy, I wish I would have found them before the divorce was final - I could have made him pay all my attorney fees and I probably could have gotten him charged with a federal crime. But since he had possession of his computer, all I had were the cd roms - which I turned over to the cops. But without more evidence, they couldn't press charges.

[commonsense]

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I got my husband a few times watching XXX porn thru my spy ware. We've been married almost 3yrs. Sex is good. I've always been open to satisfy his sexual hunger by wearing sexy lingerie. He always seems content. However, I've discovedre I've confronted him but, he vehemently denied it. However,

I agree he shouldn't have lied about it. From what I know if a guy wants to look at porn he's gonna do it. If it bothers you, he should stop it in respect for your feelings. However, most don't stop. Guys who really have decided they are not giving it up will go to many extremes to do it. i.e. laptops at the park, magazines hidden that you don't know about etc.

[missmouse]

my fiance did the SAME thing, i wear lingerie for him etc....
its the lying that hurts
and nothing makes it go away.
all u can do is confront him, tell him it hurts you, and what ur willing to do to make him happy ( watching porn etc.) and what will keep ur feelings from being hurt.
hurt feelings and lies always end a relationship i am still owkring thru this. tryign to forgive.. but this method is helping...