[horsyluvr]

His answer to my question was "I don't know."

[horsyluvr]

Needless to say, I left him. He tried to get me back with "I was going to change for you" this morning. I told him I'm not sure if I could trust him again and he lost me. He's coming to get his stuff later this week instead of next week.

[DreamP346]

Good for you. Everything you have said about him didn't sound good. Better now than years later after you are married, have kids, buy a house, etc.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You know?

You will never know if he will or wont whether he is with you or not, unless you both live together and you can see he doesn't associate with those people and smoke.

If there is a way however, it will find itself.

If you truly loves you, he will stop, show it, prove it and try to get you back (over time).

Sorry sweet.

[horsyluvr]

I agree with both of you. I wouldn't be surprised if he's smoking and drinking right now.

[Justice]

horsyluvr,

Good for you for standing up for yourself. I am sorry if you are hurting, but it sounds like you are wise enough to understand how important YOU are.

[horsyluvr]

Thank you. Oh and I forgot to mention, we got engaged April 4th. He dropped this bomb on me April 12th.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Making sure?

You propose to someone when you want to spend the rest of your life.

At that point, I think, you should know enough about each other to therefore make that decision, it's a big decision.

I don't think it's right that he told you "after" . Mind you I was having a child, got married and was told after " I've changed my mind"

Good for you and don't dwell on it ok. You are a brave girl and it is unfortunately about YOU, a we have one life to live and one only, as the person we are.

[horsyluvr]

I truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Until he told me he had been on weed while we were dating and led me on to believe it was something he did years before we met and that e wasn't doing it anymore basically. I am doing my best not to dwell on it. / wow.