[1950princess]

Hello everyone,

We have a domestic discipline relationship and was wondering how many other people live this lifestyle too? We set up a website to explain to people what it is as there has been a lot of bad press about it. We have lived it for 3 years and are very happy,



Princess x

[Stillness]

My wife and I had a discussion about this a while ago. She insisted that it's sexual play. I tried to convince her that it wasn't and she ended up mostly convincing me. Part of me thinks we just don't get it.

Are we entirely wrong? Is the spanking at least semi-erotic? Is it even play?

[1950princess]

I understand your point! DD is not sexual play, it is a lifestyle choice and a wonderful one at that! If you read into the decent DD websites you will see that the punishments etc are not sexual. DD makes for a very happy relationship! Of course being with a strong man who is in control is very appealing but the lifestyle itself is not sexual! DD is not play at all, as i said it is a lifestyle.

Hope that helped!

[Patti-here]

Well I'm not in any Domestic Discipline relationship, but I don't mind a spanking now and then, as foreplay that is.

[Stillness]

OK. Interesting.

I stumbled on a Youtube video a while back about the Christian version and was very confused. We're Christians so it made sense to us up until the punishing part. I got the feeling that it was serious, but we couldn't wrap our minds around it. So we settled on it being play.

It's probably cultural and we're just not capable of getting it.

[rcoreyus]

I have not problem with BDSM play, though I don't engage in it myself. I'm made very uneasy by "serious" domestic discipline or 24/7 bdsm as it is on the fuzzy edge of consent. Yes a person can consent to being in a DD relationship, but many women who are abused "consent" to the abuse by not leaving.

In BDSM play there is (or should be) always a safe word to let the sub stop the play at any time. Is that true in DD. Can the submitting partner stop the arrangement at any point with not repercussions?

[atskitty2]

Can you explain more about it princess?