[effy2014]

Welcome home sp. if the relationship is good, the desire to sexually please and be pleased by your partner should grow over time. Intimacy is the first thing to go when the relationship gets stale. The best "recipe" for great sex is to keep your partner feeling loved, appreciated and respected.

[Leone]

After bei g married fir just three years, I did something that still bothers me 33 years into our very happy marriage with four hildren, including triplets. I was 26, as was my husband, and we are now both 56.

It was my sister's wedding and I was in the wedding party but my husband wasn't. We are Catholic as are my sister and brother-in-law. After the church mass and sacrament of marriage, I rode over to the reception in a limo with the wedding party. My husband had gone ahead on his own and was to meet me at the reception restaurant.

Now, we were all young at 26, I was in good physical shape, and had bern drinking champagne. If I have one weakness, it is that I become easily aroused with a few drinks in me. Me and another sister, a female cousin, and a female friend were flirting with one of the young men in the wedding party, you know, just commenting on how good looking he was and making innuendos, like teenagers, about the size of his penis based on hand size. Well, the three of us decided that his hands were big, so it must be the case that his private area was big. We were just laughing it up, making him blush, when my girlfriend and other sister dared me to ask him to "see it" so we could confirm if the old wives tale was true or not.

I was VERY tipsy so I said to myself, "What the hec", and laughingly I asked him if we could "check it out". Now mind you, my husband is presumeably at the reception by now, waiting for ME so we could start enjoying the celebration together. Well, this young man was not shy about pulling it out, even though he was blushing, and we were FLOORED because it was flacid but about 8 inches long in a flacid state! We all giggled and laughed and drank more champagne, but I could see that my cousin was getting annoyed. Nevertheless, because we were "pleasantly drunk", my other sister dared me to see how big it would get if the young man became aroused. I immediately pulled back, but they kept egging me on, chanting "longer, longer, longer...".

Unfortunately, to my current shame over the incident, I gave in to the prodding and I grabbed his privates with my hand, and I started manually stimulating him. At first he pushed back, but then all the ladies in the limo held his hands back (except for my ousin) and I was able to start massaging it. He started to relax and "go with it" and before you inow it, he was "standing at attention", and when all was said and done his fully erect private part measured 12inches!

Then as if this memory isn't guilt-ridden enough, the girls (except for my cousin) started shouting and clapping in tandem, Finish, finish, finish, .... , finish." Well, I did not know what they meant until my girlfriend whispered it in my ear. I convinced myselfthat "that was disgusting and I am married" but the ladies kept telling me that this wasn't cheating and was like men inserting dollar ills in the g-strings of female strippers. So, as drunk as I was by then, I started stroking, licking, sucking this man, very handsome but I was meeting him for the first time and as I was doing this I could not believe what I was engaged in. But I recall convincing myself it was like the dollar bill scenario where men would insert dollar bills into g-strings of female strippers and if lucky cop a feel of a breast, ***, or vagina.

Incredibly, as they were chanting and as I was stroking him, I was becoming extremely aroused. Therefore, I grabbed HIS hand and put it on my vagina, and he started to rub and finger me. Well, his cum shot well into the air and actually hit the limo roof. He came so much and for so long that my hands were soaked, and some of my cloths were stained.

When we arrived at the reception everyone headed straight to the bathroom to clean up. I used the xcuse that we had spilled champagne on our hands and dresses and tuxedos.

When I finally met my husband he was very happy to see me. I told him that we hit some traffipc, but by the look in his eyes I could just tell that he suspected something, especially because I smelled of sex. My cousin, ever the party pooper said in front of everyone, to my husband, "You better talk to your wife because she has wandering eyes."

I made up some excuse that we had opened the windows of he limo, thus discheveling our hair and cloths.

Here we are now, aged 56, and I never told him what had happened. I know he remembers it, but he has come to accept that "something did happen" but he does not want to know and he is happily married anyway.

Over the years I had two other incidents that I never told my husband. One was when I met an unusually handsome and charasmatic man at work, and we snuck out after work for happy hour, and this time I went all the way with him. The only way I was able to hide it from my husband was tht as soon as I arrived home tht night, I pretened I was "turned on" and I had intercourse with my husband. He commented that I felt exceotionalky wet in the private area. I told him it was female ejaculation, but in reality it was the semen from the guy at work left over from the sex we had after happy hour. This guy from work came "forever" so there was a lot of cum in me when I had interourse with my husband.

The 3rd and last time was when me and my sister were in our mid fifties, not too long ago, and we "teased" my daughter's 23yr old boyfriend at my house (my daughter had gone out with her sister to buy some fresh bread for dinner). Anyway, he is cute and we teased him by putting our bare breasts in his face and we rubbed his privates though his pants. In this case, me and my sister felt bad for the tessing so we unzipped him and we both manually stimulated his penis until he came.

Again, 33years of marriage and we have raised four beautiful children. We are still madly in love.

[jns]

He's a great writer and his thought pattern in understanding admirable.

He's correct as well, give a woman what it is she is missing and she's yours be it a once off vulnerability or on-going and falling into a trap of being with a Married man. I'd have to say we, as women can do this back as well to a man, find his weakness and it's not his stomach as our Grandmother's would point out (food)

Great article, thanks..

I can also see why his wife got upset and also why he didn't realise or see it until it un-folded.

I hadn't read this thread since I was on vacation when it rose and mostly concluded. The word vulnerability is interesting. Vulnerability can be used to lure a potential mate in. Maybe women use it better in this way than men do, but both sexes can use it as a fishing lure. A woman can use "needing a hero" vulnerability to bring out the protector in a man. A man can show a little boy vulnerability that can bring out the protective mother instinct in a woman. Both play to traditional roles.

[Magnetism]

Does anyone else find being loyal to their partner sexy? I am turned on by the thought of being comitted and dedicated. I will disclose though that I am a Capricorn and loyalty is a big thing for us.

Hate to go off-topic, but high-five for a fellow capricorn! Being devoted to one special person is a HUGE turn-on.