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Lust can never be quenched. This would just be the beginning. He will want something else after this.

i am new to this site & am looking for advice. i am writing this to commonsense because i saw in one of your other posts that you said something about soul ties. can you explain more about them? i think this happened in my marriage. thank you.

[commonsense]

soul ties

i am new to this site & am looking for advice. i am writing this to commonsense because i saw in one of your other posts that you said something about soul ties. can you explain more about them? i think this happened in my marriage. thank you.

This answer is on a whole level of bonding. Some of you may not agree or understand and that's fine. I don't expect everyone to.

A soul tie happens when 2 people are deeply emotionally attached to each other and are intimate. It can be a same-sex bond or heterosexual bond. When you try to break off from the person, it is extremely hard. Part of it is that you are probably in love, but it goes much deeper than that. That's why you need to be sure of who you sleep with, so you want be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

[quote=commonsense;37518]This answer is on a whole level of bonding. Some of you may not agree or understand and that's fine. I don't expect everyone to.

A soul tie happens when 2 people are deeply emotionally attached to each other and are intimate. It can be a same-sex bond or heterosexual bond. When you try to break off from the person, it is extremely hard. Part of it is that you are probably in love, but it goes much deeper than that. That's why you need to be sure of who you sleep with, so you want be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to.[/quote]


I get all of that, except the last line? Is that " so you "wont" be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to?"..

So, you don't create a bond, of sorts with the wrong person?

CW

[commonsense]

soul ties

[quote=CHANDLERS WISH;37553]

This answer is on a whole level of bonding. Some of you may not agree or understand and that's fine. I don't expect everyone to.

A soul tie happens when 2 people are deeply emotionally attached to each other and are intimate. It can be a same-sex bond or heterosexual bond. When you try to break off from the person, it is extremely hard. Part of it is that you are probably in love, but it goes much deeper than that. That's why you need to be sure of who you sleep with, so you want be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to.[/quote]


I get all of that, except the last line? Is that " so you "wont" be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to?"..

So, you don't create a bond, of sorts with the wrong person?

CW

[commonsense]

[quote=CHANDLERS WISH;37553]

This answer is on a whole level of bonding. Some of you may not agree or understand and that's fine. I don't expect everyone to.

A soul tie happens when 2 people are deeply emotionally attached to each other and are intimate. It can be a same-sex bond or heterosexual bond. When you try to break off from the person, it is extremely hard. Part of it is that you are probably in love, but it goes much deeper than that. That's why you need to be sure of who you sleep with, so you want be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to.[/quote]


I get all of that, except the last line? Is that " so you "wont" be tied to someone that you really don't want to be tied to?"..

So, you don't create a bond, of sorts with the wrong person?

CW

Yes. They may be a creep, but you want see it until you have finally broken the bond. Everybody else around you will see it(that the person is not good for you). By the time you realize what mess you are in, who knows what you have done or been through if it is a negative bond. Speaking from experience. Scan the web, there is some very good information out there. Just use your best judgement on the validity.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

[quote=commonsense;37818]

Yes. They may be a creep, but you want see it until you have finally broken the bond. Everybody else around you will see it(that the person is not good for you). By the time you realize what mess you are in, who knows what you have done or been through if it is a negative bond. Speaking from experience. Scan the web, there is some very good information out there. Just use your best judgement on the validity.

I do agree that as a woman, once you sleep with the man, you immediately are bonded, and don't see the light at any tunnel until the honey moon stage is over.

Perhaps, the key is to wait a lot longer before that initial step, so you don't bond with the wrong person.....

Mmm....

CW

[commonsense]

soul ties

[quote=CHANDLERS WISH;37826]

I do agree that as a woman, once you sleep with the man, you immediately are bonded, and don't see the light at any tunnel until the honey moon stage is over.

Perhaps, the key is to wait a lot longer before that initial step, so you don't bond with the wrong person.....

Mmm....

CW

I agree. If you looking for the real thing, waiting a few months is a good idea. Gives you more time to see through lies, tempers, bad credit (LOL) etc. before you become blinded by good sex (hopefully) and emotions.

[commonsense]

soul ties

[quote=CHANDLERS WISH;37826]

I do agree that as a woman, once you sleep with the man, you immediately are bonded, and don't see the light at any tunnel until the honey moon stage is over.

Perhaps, the key is to wait a lot longer before that initial step, so you don't bond with the wrong person.....

Mmm....

CW

By the way, the bond is both ways. It's just that because of our design, as females being more emotional, we bond much harder and hurt more. That's why we should be even more cautious and particular about giving away our heart.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

commonsense
I agree. If you looking for the real thing, waiting a few months is a good idea. Gives you more time to see through lies, tempers, bad credit (LOL) etc. before you become blinded by good sex (hopefully) and emotions.

Sugar, i have waited 6 to find someone remotely perfect, sort of, lol, then 6 more to meet him, i prefer the few months i think! lol.. But hey, i can vouch at least that those few months of getting to know him, before doing, so to speak does show you what type of sexual person they are as well, so you can ascertain compatability there which is also highly important.......

commonsense
By the way, the bond is both ways. It's just that because of our design, as females being more emotional, we bond much harder and hurt more. That's why we should be even more cautious and particular about giving away our heart.

Yes, i realise that, i think quicker as well..... And perhaps if i may say " more of a dreamer" than a man...

Very true..
CW