[amy40]

Have some ideas in place for how you would carry out the care of the house or if you would sell it

working on this

[Maisie Dayz]

I sometimes think being a SAHM gives a loss of sense of identity, even though being there for our children is the best thing for them.
There are many mum's that would love to be at home for their kids but feel that working maintains their sense of individuality & financial independence, making them happier and therefore believe their children are happy.
It's whatever works for the individual.
I work with my husband so we are together almost 24/7. My dependence on him is not financial but emotional, he's stronger than me (not just physically) emotionally so I feed off that when I need the confidence to take on something I might not otherwise do.
I hope you work things out & be happy

[amy40]

"work with my husband so we are together almost 24/7"

that's great your husband and you work well together

[amy40]

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[amy40]

but I think generally it is not good to feel dependent on any other person.

one good thing is that husband never makes me feel like I am dependent on him and even though he makes the money now, it's "our" money

from beginning of marriage joint money accts

[Popcorn&Candy]

I'm 37 years old this year and I still have not gotten married. I prefer my independence and don't want to be tied down. He'd have to be a special man for me to give that up. I like to go my own way and not always emotionally support someone. I would care but I would not go too far. Of course, many people get married and are very happy but I am not that way inclined.

[kristibates]

I'm 37 years old this year and I still have not gotten married. I prefer my independence and don't want to be tied down. He'd have to be a special man for me to give that up. I like to go my own way and not always emotionally support someone. I would care but I would not go too far. Of course, many people get married and are very happy but I am not that way inclined.

I agree with you. Even I'm 29 and but not looking for getting married at-least 5-6 years more.

[amy40]

I agree with you. Even I'm 29 and but not looking for getting married at-least 5-6 years more.

while you are still single, move to a state where you will want to live forever

I made the mistake of going to college in state and then met my husband and seems am stuck here instead of near mountains where I'd like to be

[jns]

while you are still single, move to a state where you will want to live forever

I made the mistake of going to college in state and then met my husband and seems am stuck here instead of near mountains where I'd like to be

Just as good is to live in a state where your employment choices are good. That is why I moved to California. Fortunately, California has a lot of beautiful landscape. Unfortunately, some of it near me burned a couple of days ago. Now that I'm retired, I am working on moving, partly due to high state taxes. Moving to a place that you like is something you can plan on for retirement. I believe your child should be through high school at that time.

[amy40]

sorry jns, all those fires are terrible!

sooooo many years until our kid is done with school, have many years of homework duty left
that's why saying, if you ARE single:

move, travel, etc