[atskitty2]

You say that she's trying very hard. How is she trying? What is she doing? How much does she want to lose?

Is she an emotional eater? Does she give herself food treats to comfort herself?

While I agree with some of what lithium has said, it is important for her, and you, to realize that this is an issue about her and only she can really solve this. Has she had some lab work done to check hormones and thyroid for any physical reason for the weight staying on? Support her and continue to make your love and attraction obvious, and then let her fight this battle. Give her some back up and cut off negative comments about her self, if she says it aloud, but let her find her own answers.

I say that cautiously, as I don't want to be misinterpreted. It's important to support and boost your wife, I just also believe that it's very important that these things are done fully for ourselves, and in a way that makes us confident, even if we don't end up reaching our goals.
She can learn that, healthy living is most important, not size. She can always eat healthier and exercise more. Make the focus about health, not size.

When that happens, when we look at overall health and wellness, weight will come down. And our priority shifts from that ideal size, to how we feel and how we look in that size that may be 1 or 2 more than we hoped, but our minds have adjusted to know that we are healthy, and have more energy. Sizing matters less when we think about health and happiness.

With all that said, I do understand that struggle. I gained a lot of weight after a divorce and it took quite awhile to lose, and then other things happened to really help me put weight in perspective. I'm still a size bigger than my personal goal, but I'm a healthy weight, and I love how I look and feel. I've maintained this weight for 3 yrs, because my mentality changed. That's what I think is missing with most people struggling with their weight.

[amy40]

i just want her to love herself.

did you write her a love letter like I suggested?
we went to a couples retreat before becoming parents; writing a love letter to each other was one of the tasks

it's very powerful!

[amy40]

gstrick
if you think it's too hard to write your wife a love letter

then pretend the earth is ending tomorrow and tell her everything you wish you'd told her before it's too late
tell her WHY you love her (in a letter she can keep)

[Popcorn&Candy]

Body image is an issue for me, too. I am not a size 6 but I have learnt to accept my flaws. It isn't very likely I'm going to wake up in the morning looking like Beyonce or Julia Roberts. All I can do is make the most of myself. I always have party nails, I pluck my eyebrows, I wear lipstick and love beautiful clothes. I can't be someone else. I think we all need to accept this. No amount of dieting is going to make me taller, is it? I read the fashion magazines, but I am just me. We are all just ourselves. We have to find a way to be proud of what we are without always referring to how we look. That is my philosophy.

[sonamgupta2107]

Hi dear. It's a stressful time trying to lose all the baby weight for sure! You can def walk/ run after the baby is born! See how you're feeling and that will tell you a lot about how strenuous you can go. Also, it's always best to wait for doctor recommendation but my doctor told me I could get back at it once I felt well enough but just start off slow and short distances. Make sure and breastfeeding baby or pump before a session because you don't want your shirt covered in breast milk or to be uncomfortable. Bring baby with you! It's added weight to push the stroller and it's bonding time. As for cutting calories, if you're breastfeeding then you need to keep up your calorie intake as you would while pregnant. Feed your body and baby with healthy snacks! I found it was much easier to eat healthy when I was breastfeeding because I felt like it was going directly to baby! These are the tips you can follow but always try to get expert advice and I will suggest Lotus Clinic in Ukraine as they are best in these matters.