[amy40]

Can some ladies elaborate as to why she would be so unwilling to just tell me the truth.

some people grew up believing it was wrong, so shame is involved
it's a private thing and some people would rather not admit it

or she could be trying to spare your feelings if she knew this is how you'd react


it's nothing against you

[atskitty2]

While I agree with amy above, it's almost as if she wants you to know what she's doing. It seems like she's almost trying to make it known. She probably has many opportunities besides when you're 2 feet away.

If she won't talk about it, and be honest, there really isn't much you can do, as I see it. You can let it go, accept her actions as her choice and move on. You can continue trying to talk it through with her, maybe seek out some counseling to help you manage your feeling about this. Or you can break up and move on.

Personally, it seems like this is a pretty unhealthy thing happening between the two of you. She's hinting about breaking up over it, and I personally would take that as a threat. That would sort of tell me where she is in the relationship.
That's what bothers me about your last post. It almost seems like a passive aggressiveness going on, at least now that you have talked to her about it.

So I have no idea why she wouldn't just be open, now that you already know.
I think there's more to it for her, than just self soothing or needing another orgasm. That's my dimestore psychology for ya tho. It may be a point of rebellion or control for her now. You said she's manipulative, this is probably going to turn into one of those times.

It could be that she feels like you have violated her privacy, that you overstepped her personal boundaries. She could feel a little disrespected by all this.

Unfortunately, if there's no healthy communication between you, there's little chance for this to be understood and worked through.

Ask yourself what really bothers you about all this. From the moment it was discovered, what is it that really upset you?