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  • Have You Ever Recorded Yourself Having Sex?

    These days everybody records virtually everything, no matter how mundane or crazy. In this day and age of tech, I've always wondered how many people have recorded themselves having sex or performing sex acts. We all know about celebs whose sex tapes have gone on to be famous/infamous but what about the every day folks? Do you or have you recorded yourself? If so, how did you come to the decision to do it? Do you ever worry about someone seeing it or getting access to the footage? How do you keep your files safe?

    I'm so curious to hear what other people's experiences are!

  • It doesn't surprise me that celebrities record themselves having sex. Most seem to really like their image. My personal experience is that the women I have been around don't even want nude stills taken of them. I once did take a few close up stills or a short video of my wife and I having sex but she did not like it so I deleted it/them. A happy wife is a happy life. No files so no safety issues. For others, I wonder how the grand kids will react when they see grandma and grandpa going at it.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • I don't think I've ever done that or had a strong urge to do so. Pictures, yes, there's tons of those, but no sex tapes.
      I have had a different experience than jns with women wanting nude photos taken of them. I certainly don't mind it, as long as it's for someone I trust.

      I have asked a couple men, including my current man, at what point in a relationship he's felt comfortable to ask for some "stimulating" photos of a woman. Every single one has said that they never had to ask, women just send suggestive or nude pics on their own. In hindsight, I think that's true of myself also. I've sent them only to 2 men that I've been involved with, and I'm certain they didn't ask. I initiated that as a sort of, unexpected, naughty thing that they wouldn't think I'd ever do

      Anyway, I'm off topic... I've known of some couples that made sex tapes, all the way back to when it was VHS! lol I think some people just wonder what they look like, as if we somehow think we all look like porn stars in bed, or wherever we decide to set the scene. I think it could be fun, if a couple had complete trust, and it was done as a little extra activity to spice things up. I probably never would, but I'd be open to it.

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      • In light of Kitty's post, I suppose I should add something. My wife is from Thailand. Many Asian cultures are quite traditional and were even more so when we got married decades ago. A different point of view than the typical USA one. I wonder how this topic is considered in other countries and cultures.
        I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
        ...
        Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

        From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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        • Originally posted by jns View Post
          It doesn't surprise me that celebrities record themselves having sex. Most seem to really like their image. My personal experience is that the women I have been around don't even want nude stills taken of them. I once did take a few close up stills or a short video of my wife and I having sex but she did not like it so I deleted it/them. A happy wife is a happy life. No files so no safety issues. For others, I wonder how the grand kids will react when they see grandma and grandpa going at it.
          You can never go wrong with the "happy wife, happy life" adage, haha. :-)

          But it was cool that you both at least tried it. I can see how it can be uncomfortable to actually see yourself. I've only done it with 3 people I dated (and obviously trusted). The first time I did it with a long-term boyfriend, it was so long ago, it's on one of those mini DV tapes that goes in a camcorder so I doubt you could even find anything to play it on! But he still has it but is married and his wife hates me so I doubt that video would ever get leaked. She probably destroyed it once she knew it existed (I have no clue either way).

          With my other ex who was the second person, I didn't like watching it afterwards...it was mostly for him. However, once we broke up I did ask him to delete all the videos he had, which he did in front of me so that was taken care of.

          The last guy I did that with I am still on good terms with but I do not feel comfortable with him having the footage on his phone...not because he would ever exploit it but because on a phone it's way too easy to be discovered by accident or if his phone ever got stolen or hacked into. Actually, the next time I see him, I'm going to ask that he delete any of the ones that actually shows my face or is otherwise recognizable. Certain closeups where it's just body parts are not a big deal to me since you can't tell who it belongs to.

          Moving forward, I don't think I would do it anymore, even with someone I trusted. I've been lucky so far and honestly, the fantasy of it is gone for me so I'm over it. Haha.

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          • Originally posted by atskitty2 View Post
            I don't think I've ever done that or had a strong urge to do so. Pictures, yes, there's tons of those, but no sex tapes.
            I have had a different experience than jns with women wanting nude photos taken of them. I certainly don't mind it, as long as it's for someone I trust.

            I have asked a couple men, including my current man, at what point in a relationship he's felt comfortable to ask for some "stimulating" photos of a woman. Every single one has said that they never had to ask, women just send suggestive or nude pics on their own. In hindsight, I think that's true of myself also. I've sent them only to 2 men that I've been involved with, and I'm certain they didn't ask. I initiated that as a sort of, unexpected, naughty thing that they wouldn't think I'd ever do

            Anyway, I'm off topic... I've known of some couples that made sex tapes, all the way back to when it was VHS! lol I think some people just wonder what they look like, as if we somehow think we all look like porn stars in bed, or wherever we decide to set the scene. I think it could be fun, if a couple had complete trust, and it was done as a little extra activity to spice things up. I probably never would, but I'd be open to it.
            I really like how you are comfortable enough with yourself to share provocative photos. Video is definitely another level and it isn't for everyone. Personally, it's always hotter for a woman to send racy photos of herself to a guy than the other way around. I mean, showing off your body is one thing for a man but I HATE d!ck picks! Ugh, hahahahaha. I respect and adore a guy's manhood but they are not the most photogenic things. Thankfully, I don't tend to get those (maybe 1 or 2?) but even the few times it's happened, it was scarring and totally took any attraction out of the equation for me.

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            • Ah, yes...the surprise d!ck pic in the middle of the afternoon...so disgusting...

              I have thought that, if my man sent me a whole body nude, I'd be ok with that. But these guys that send close ups of their erect penis only, is the biggest turn off. That was the end of the line for me too.


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              • Long before I met my husband, I let a guy I was dating film our sexcapades. I didn't like watching myself though. I'm a fat chick with body image issues that were way worse when I was in my 20s.

                When I found out he'd sold the video of us, I was surprised at how NOT horrified I was at the idea of being seen doing the deed. Obviously, I was angry that I didn't have a say in that, though I fully expected him to show friends. But emotionally, my gut reaction was amusement more than embarrassment. Luckily for me, this was at the beginning of the internet. AFAIK, it's not in distribution anywhere.

                I never thought of myself as the sort of person who would want others to see something that intimate. But so long as the reaction was positive, I found that I had no issue with others seeing me during sexy times. Also, I made him give me half the money, which was the funnest $3,000 I've ever made.

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                • Wednesday L.F. WOW, now that's a story for the ages! You got so lucky all that happened before what is now the new normal with recording and the Internet. although like you said, the idea in general didn't seem to really bother/affect you. And ummm...$3,000? Yeah, I'd say that was a pretty nice end result, not too shabby at all!

                  I agree that watching yourself isn't all it's cracked up to be. I've learned long ago that certain fantasies are much better in my head than trying to manifest it.

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                  • I have not – at least not recordings. Somewhere out there, an ex likely still has photographs he took of my long-forgotten 20-something naked body.

                    I never planned on having a career in politics, anyway, so it really doesn’t bother to me know they might be in his possession still. But I remember, very clearly, having to pick them up from the drug store photo department because this was before the age of digital cameras and home printing — those were on FILM that had to be developed.

                    (Aging myself, but I digress.)

                    I’ve never had the urge to be on video, mostly because I generally run from cameras. A porn vid starring me would not likely be anything I’d ever watch, so why make one at all?

                    But these days, with as easy as it is to put revenge porn on the internet or email/share things instantly… I never would. I’m pretty body confident, but all it takes is one jerk to ruin your life for a bit.

                    That happened at my daughters’ school a few years back — I used it as a lesson about what to NEVER do. One poor girl had her nudes air dropped in the lunchroom. It was understandably a nightmare.

                    But I can relate to the idea of certain fantasies being better in your head; I don't want to KNOW what I look like while having sex only so I can just keep believing that it's hot and sexy and not freaking hilarious and/or sad to watch. LOL!

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                    • Oh boy...

                      The short answer is yes, I've done it quite a few times, and ********ck yeah, I'd do it again. Then again, I'm a dude...so?

                      The women that I've been with have all been game, and some of them have sent me unsolicited videos of themselves masturbating (super hot!), and in other risque poses and activities.

                      In fact my experiences have all been great, and yes, I keep and hold on to those videos as they are previous memories for me now and in the future.

                      When I was in my last serious relationship, I deleted (unprompted!) all the videos and pics I had till then...when the relationship ended a few years later (I thought it was the one!), I regretted doing so, as I missed all my old videos, and could never get them back again and vowed never to deleted them again, until/unless I ever got married and that was that.

                      In the meantime, I find that most women if you are honest, forthright and have high integrity (which I do) and they know they can trust you regardless of your relationships status to never sell, or share them with anyone, are not just ok with it, but also quite turned on to do the deed on camera or at least host portions of it to share.

                      It's fun, I don't regret doing it -- even if the videos got released (god help whoever watches that...) -- and I see it as just natural exploration and sexuality. Thumbs up over here.

                      And kudos to Wednesday L.F. That's ****ing amazing! Funny story.

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                      • Wednesday L.F. omg that's wild that your ex sold the video! I'd be ****ed, too, but I'm glad you were able to make some money off of it and that you can look back at it with humor now!

                        I think a lot of women in some circles feel less comfortable with the idea of filming themselves having sex/doing anything sexual because women are often shamed for being sexual, whereas guys are often praised for being sexual--and so if your video does get out there, I feel like women are shamed more than men. I don't see it as often now, thankfully, but I know several years ago I felt like I couldn't go a week without hearing about someone who sent out revenge porn.

                        Also, I wouldn't want to watch it back probably because body-image issues are a thing for me, too, but different strokes for different folks.

                        JonnyR I think trust is a majorly important thing when it comes to something so private and intimate like that, and if you know your partner has integrity and you both set boundaries as far as what's okay (distributing the video is a hard no without consent, etc.), I think it's totally fine! I also think having a solid, trusting relationship with your partner(s) first would make it easier to do.

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                        • Emily, you are totally right about gender and shaming. I was reading about a mom whose kids were kicked out of parochial school because she has a risqué OnlyFans. Kicker is that the controversy started because one of the dads in the community saw it, then told his wife who blabbed to everyone. No consequences for the dad surfing for MILFs though...

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                          • Originally posted by Wednesday L.F. View Post
                            I was reading about a mom whose kids were kicked out of parochial school because she has a risqué OnlyFans. Kicker is that the controversy started because one of the dads in the community saw it, then told his wife who blabbed to everyone. No consequences for the dad surfing for MILFs though...
                            There is a lot more to the Mrs. Poindexter controversy. The athletic director at the school is gone. CBS says it was a group of moms sending the school the content. More controversy will follow. Mrs. Poindexter is supposedly earning up to $150,000 a month.
                            I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
                            ...
                            Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

                            From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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                            • jns Thanks for the additional info! WOW, it all I've gotta say. I've only recently started hearing about the whole OnlyFans craze. I don't know if it's been around for a while but I feel like it popped up overnight.

                              I saw it mentioned somewhere on IG and me being naïve, mentioned it to one of my guy friends as far as using it as a business opportunity and he gave me the craziest look.

                              "You don't know what OnlyFans is, do you???" I'm pretty sure my expression in response was the first time I'd ever truly looked "innocent" in years, lmao. Wide-eyed, I shook my head. He educated me that day!

                              But yeah, $150,000 a month??? No words. Do you, Mrs. Poindexter, do you...I can't even be mad about that.

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