Well, it's sudden but I know it's right...
my bf and I got engaged about a week ago. We've known each other a year today, and we've only been together about 5 months, but I've never felt so sure about a decision in my life. Not even my decision to leave my ex, and I was pretty sure about that!
However, this is new territory for me. I've never really thought about sharing my life with someone as their "wife" before; also for the first time I'm seriously pondering not just if, but WHEN I want to start a family and where exactly I want to do that...so many new issues, and yet I"m still dealing with all the old ones
Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone out there had any advice? Things that you may have done or not done at this stage of the relationship that might be helpful for me? I really want this relationship to last the rest of my life, but marriage is a whole new world to me. I've done the cohabitation thing, but this is totally different.
Okay, here's a direct question then: despite the fact that we are engaged I am still not moving in. I am sort of half moved in but I am renting a room off of a friend as well. I sort of feel like moving in together will cheapen the experience of marriage. Any opinions on that? Is it logical to keep two dwellings or am I just letting bad past experiences haunt me? Thanks everyone!
my bf and I got engaged about a week ago. We've known each other a year today, and we've only been together about 5 months, but I've never felt so sure about a decision in my life. Not even my decision to leave my ex, and I was pretty sure about that!
However, this is new territory for me. I've never really thought about sharing my life with someone as their "wife" before; also for the first time I'm seriously pondering not just if, but WHEN I want to start a family and where exactly I want to do that...so many new issues, and yet I"m still dealing with all the old ones
Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone out there had any advice? Things that you may have done or not done at this stage of the relationship that might be helpful for me? I really want this relationship to last the rest of my life, but marriage is a whole new world to me. I've done the cohabitation thing, but this is totally different.
Okay, here's a direct question then: despite the fact that we are engaged I am still not moving in. I am sort of half moved in but I am renting a room off of a friend as well. I sort of feel like moving in together will cheapen the experience of marriage. Any opinions on that? Is it logical to keep two dwellings or am I just letting bad past experiences haunt me? Thanks everyone!
As far as the having a family thing, we talked about that before marriage and, as he already has one child, I know that he is an amazing father and a solid person. I feel very confidant about this decision but I also know that life doesn't always (in fact rarely does!) go the way you plan for it too. I feel ready for whereever this road may take me; after all I will be taking it with my best friend. I thank-you for your advice though...your ex sounds a great deal like my ex and I know how shattering people like that are. I am lucky that I found someone so completely the opposite of the *** I used to date, but yes, there is still a little fear in my heart because do you ever fully heal from a broken heart?
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