[Mr. ED]

Thank you for your reply, SOLONELYRIGHTNOW, after all this time. If you've read through the posts, here is a little update. My Russian wife and I are doing fine now. On December 10th, 2008, I sent the disc I mentioned in the posts which was his PERSONAL Christmas present from ME with ALL his letters, pictures, videos he sent her from Utube and any references I could find on line, like when he applied for a teaching certificate in Marine Biology from an Internet site using my wife's University in Russia as a graduating reference when he never even saw the University Of St. Petersburg and only knew the profession existed from seeing my wife. Of course I never received an answer and all his sites on Facebook etc. were deleted. I got my 'personal satisfaction'! However, on July 28th will be the first anniversary of their making contact and my accidentally finding out the same day. He just may get an anniversary card! Thanks for the Walmart reference. I hope now I will never need it, but regaining 100% trust is a long drawn out process.

[solonelyrightnow]

You want to know exackly what she is doing go down to wal mart and purchase a spy program. Its called Cyberwatch, it records everything without being detected within minutes you will be able to know what she is up to.

[solonelyrightnow]

I totally disagree with the posts, she has no business looking for someone after being married, to me those ties should be broken. Your past is your past and I agree with you she should be talking to you about a problem.

[Mr. ED]

Being rather wordy, that happens to me frequently. Hit the back button, then highlight and copy what you wrote, then when you have to refresh to log in you can just paste it right in. Isn't technology wonderful? - as long as it's working!

Thanks for the advice but I was in a hurry on my wife's computer and lost the whole thing!

[WildChild]

Being rather wordy, that happens to me frequently. Hit the back button, then highlight and copy what you wrote, then when you have to refresh to log in you can just paste it right in. Isn't technology wonderful? - as long as it's working!

[Mr. ED]

I just wrote a long response clicked on "submit" and got the message "You do not have permission to do this. Please refresh the page and login." How was I able to "Quick respond"? I did log in before. Naturally I lost the response when refreshing. Thanks for 'sharing'. I'll comment later. By the way, I wrote this on my wife's computer. Mine refuses to log on to the Internet! I called the server 4 times today and they are finally going to forward the problem to a level 2 Tech! Fancy name for the guy at the next desk. He won't be able to get back to me till tomorrow afternoon!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I was thinking of the fridge running... Did you catch it?

LMAO - laughing my as* off...
LOL- you know that one don't you?

Your going to a lot of bother i must say, but on the same accord, i can almost see the smile on her face.

Usually, we are deviate and we find a way in which to seek/get revenge if that is what we want.. Most times, i just believe what goes around comes around.

I did have an English man courting me for 6 months from yes, England... But, by the time he got here, he had met someone at his Sister's in another State "romantically" and then came still to meet me, "sexually", lol.. Silly CW... But, off course continued with the "distance is the problem" after practically asking me to wait, for around 4 weeks, all the while back on a dating site as well for those 4 weeks daily? I ended up emailing him 4 months later on the dating sight. "What a disappointement, I was sure that you could have "taught me sexually all that I missed" damd, it was so disappointing and really sweet, you should change the photo you are grey and fatter, not dark haired and taught, you should show yourself of who you are.. Hope you are well.

Lol.. Well, "you said some nice things to me when I was there, now your taking them back oh well". Oh well indeed, now he can ponder his sexuality and grey haired fat gut..

whooo hooo, I wrote "revenge" ...

So, yes I do understand, that made me feel so, so, good when I wrote that like you would not believe, both here and to him at that time ( recently) ... so i can see her smile over this but more importantly, that her HUSBAND is doing it with her so she can finally get the last laugh and close the book.

What you are discovering is more and more things she had no idea over, pertaining to his cheating, his lies and he put her in that lies and distruction web...

She will clearly be able to move on from here...

And, you I am sure, feel good too, as you are both doing this together as HUSBAND and WIFE, something she has obviously expressed and now if you go back to your first thread/s, we were talking about her being frightened to talk too much, to tell you too much, but here you are 100degree turn, sharing it in it's fullest and going for it as a team, of togetherness.

Good for you.

CW

[Mr. ED]

CW:
Sorry for the delay but I had some plumbing problems. And before that the fridge went out.
Anyway....I'm glad you and Zoolady agree with my plan for revenge. Thanks for highlighting the important part. Now someone might get the true view of the situation. I will try to keep him writing as close to the holidays as possible, thinking he's writing to her. In my Christmas "gift" I am also including several of his web sights including one from uTube and a Russian dating site where he advertises for dates using several pictures of himself. My wife has to go to Russia for two weeks in December on business. I'm thinking of having her mail the disc from there. From what I know about this guy now, he will think that we have split up and she went back 'home'!

I found a site, Ocean Experts, which is where profession people register for whatever reason. He is registered on that site as Doctor of Scientific Oceanography and the name and address he used for where he got his PhD is the University in St. Petersburg, Russia where my wife taught and lectured for 18 years. According to my wife, he barely made it through high school. I want to hurt this guy, at least psychologically! Even though he sent her his business address and phone number I have since found a box number and private cell phone number for free. I wouldn't waste a Cpoec on this guy. So if he is married his wife might pick up the mail while he's at work. It will be addressed to the Stamey Family. I don't know if you know American money values but a Russian Copec is the American penny. But it takes 25 Copecs to equal the value of one American penny.

You can tell me what the Australians would call this guy no matter how rude. I drove semi's (tractor trailers) from ocean to ocean and border to border in this country for 15 years. I'm a newbie at anagrams. What does LMAO stand for? I really didn't think about the 33 posts until after I posted them trying to get around the h**l word!

[zoolady]

this may be a little late but...
Sometimes, we as women, want the men who wronged us to know that we are just fine and happy without them (even if it is 5 years later). Kinda like having the last laugh.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Update:
I have since made an arrangement with my wife to answer his emails (just general conversation) from a different mail box because I want to give him a Christmas present in Hawaii. I plan to send him a disc with three folders in it. One containing a nice holiday message from my wife. The second containing all the letters he's written since July 28th. Only his; not her responses. And the third will contain a letter from me telling him exactly what I think of him. And they will be set up to open only in that order. Why??? Not because of what happened before I came into the picture. I have a history also. But because he used her and her apartment after she arranged for extensive dental work at a discount price and then left without any warning. She called South Carolina from Russia after he left and his fiancée answered the phone. He flatly denies he even has a girlfriend. Think about it! The other reason is because after I found the first email from him, she wrote back and told him not to write because she was married. He wrote back and is still writing. But now he's writing to me with her help. He's a pseudo megalomaniac and a pathological lier (I know this through intense Googling) and it's really too bad he lives about 3500 miles from here! There are many more twists and turns to this saga but I've already repeated myself more than once. Be it enough to say that it should all turn out to mine and my wife's satisfaction in the end. She would like to get even in some way for what he did five years ago.

Oh dear....

I didn't know he had a Fiancee when all of this transpired? The cheeky git... well that is what the English would say, I don't want to tell you as an Australian what I would say, it would be way too rude.

LMAO - What a clever plan you both have, shame that the Fiancee of his may not get a chance to read all that he has said:- LATELY : - Or will she ? hehehe.

Sorry, sometimes revenge is bitter sweet and I think you wife will have closer after that little set up.,

STILL LMAO..

Can't help it.

lol.

CW