Here's the background, I was in a relationship for almost 4 years, and I broke things off because the guy cared more about himself then me. After that relationship I started dating my husband. My husband and I have been married for about 6 months now. In the past my husband and I dated for a year and we've kept in contact with one another for 6 years.
The problem is I feel like my husband is controlling, and I am not sure what I can do about it. He likes to know what I do and who I talk to every day. Before when I would forget to mention someone, he would get upset and we would get into an argument. To me, I feel like sometimes he treats me as if he's my father and I have told him that. He feels like since we are married we should share everything.
I personally feel that a marriage involves a lot of compromising and trust. I feel like he does not do any compromising. I have compromised with him, I stopped talking to my friends that were men, I tell him whenever I talk to someone on the phone or whenever I get text messages and he's not around. I took all of my ex's family members off my email account, I don't respond to any of their emails, I don't talk to any of them any longer. We have sat down and talked about what I would like him to do and it seems like he doesn't care about it. Everything I do seems like it'll never be enough.
Today we got in an argument because my ex's aunt sent an email to me, my ex and my ex's mother. I showed my husband the email, since he wants us to "share" everything. I deleted it, and thought that was the end of it. The way his actions were throughout the day, it seems like he wanted me to email my ex's aunt back and tell her to stop emailing me. Nobody knows that we're married. We kept it a secret. I personally feel that, the email was not threatening at all, she is the type of woman to send out emails to people she cares for to inform people what is going on in their lives. And I am sure, the end of this year I'll get another Christmas card from her like I have in the past.
So I guess I have two problems I do not know how to deal with. Any advice?
The problem is I feel like my husband is controlling, and I am not sure what I can do about it. He likes to know what I do and who I talk to every day. Before when I would forget to mention someone, he would get upset and we would get into an argument. To me, I feel like sometimes he treats me as if he's my father and I have told him that. He feels like since we are married we should share everything.
I personally feel that a marriage involves a lot of compromising and trust. I feel like he does not do any compromising. I have compromised with him, I stopped talking to my friends that were men, I tell him whenever I talk to someone on the phone or whenever I get text messages and he's not around. I took all of my ex's family members off my email account, I don't respond to any of their emails, I don't talk to any of them any longer. We have sat down and talked about what I would like him to do and it seems like he doesn't care about it. Everything I do seems like it'll never be enough.
Today we got in an argument because my ex's aunt sent an email to me, my ex and my ex's mother. I showed my husband the email, since he wants us to "share" everything. I deleted it, and thought that was the end of it. The way his actions were throughout the day, it seems like he wanted me to email my ex's aunt back and tell her to stop emailing me. Nobody knows that we're married. We kept it a secret. I personally feel that, the email was not threatening at all, she is the type of woman to send out emails to people she cares for to inform people what is going on in their lives. And I am sure, the end of this year I'll get another Christmas card from her like I have in the past.
So I guess I have two problems I do not know how to deal with. Any advice?
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