[bossfan]

I have a HUGE and extremely embarrassing problem. Not only do I have excess facial hair but body hair as well. I have hair on my upper lip, the sides of my face and my chin and neck. I was my upper lip and the sides of my face, but I stupidly shaved my chin and neck about 8 years ago and now have to shave my chin and neck on a daily basis. The worst part of it is that I am really fair skinned and my hair is black. I have a constant five o'clock shadow and I end up with razor burn quite often because of the frequency of my shaving.

I had to have my arm shaved years ago due to a bad cut I had and it needed bandaged and the nurse shaved my arm. I liked the way it looked so now I shave my arms on a daily basis. I have long black hairs on my chest and breasts. I either pluck or shave those. I have long black hairs on my stomach, lower back and even on the tops of my toes and feet. It's so embarrassing. I don't date at all because I am afraid of a man seeing this. I've never really had anybody say anything but it affects every aspect of my life.

I can't wear the kind of clothes I would like. If I go a day without shaving any of the aforementioned body parts I end up with stubble. It's very time consuming to have to get rid of all of this hair and some days I don't feel like shaving my chest, stomach, back & arms. So I don't but then on those days I'm terrified someone will see. I haven't worn a short sleeved shirt in public since high school. I don't wear scoop neck, v-neck or any other type of shirt because of the stubble or little visible hairs on my chest. I always wear a tank top or other form fitting shirt underneath my shirts in case I have to reach up for something or bend down and don't want anyone to see what's underneath my shirt.

I avoid almost every social situation because I'm so self conscious about the way I look. I am very unhappy and I've even contemplated suicide over this, but then I realize there are other people out there a lot worse of than me. It's just very difficult when people don't understand and always wonder why I wear long sleeves and never wear sandals or heels. My family used to tease me about my excess hair. My mother used to say I had sideburns and that I looked like a billy goat because of the hair on my chin & Neck. So one day, I shaved it off my chin & neck and didn't realize that with that hasty decision I would be a slave to a razor everyday for the rest of my life. I wish I had waxed it but it's too late for that now. I often wished I could hide from the world for a few weeks and let the hair grow out and wax it off but that is impossible.

I have no idea what to do anymore and I was hoping someone might be able to offer me some sort of advice on a better way to control this body hair.

[mr.mansview]

there r clinics popping up every where now days that do this type of hair removal..if u do go make sure they are credable..a girl i know works at one such clinic..she says men pay up to $450 per session to remove back hair..they recommend 3 sessions to eliminate the problem for a considerable amount of time..it certainly is not cheap but that is one option..perhaps a pharmacist can suggest creams as opposed to shaving..
so called experts say that shaving does not make the hair grow back coarser and faster..not sure i agree..my 5 o'clock shadow show up at about 3

[Lady_Lav]

Bossfan, I know what you're going through only too well!
I've hair exactly where you have. And I shave my sideburns and chin too. I used to used Nair, and it was working a treat, but one day out of desperation I shaved cos I'd no nair with me, now the nair won't work on me anymore! Grrr!

I pluck out the hairs on my chest and I shave my belly. As for the hairs on my lower back and butt, I don't touch them. That's just too much for me.

It can be very depressing, I've lost count of how many times I've cried my eyes out over it. I've got fair skin as well which makes it so much easier to spot the hair.

[FernTailor]

Count me in too ...its been a very tough route for me as well and still struggling to get rid of it.

[Labyrinth]

I'm suffering from the same problem! I become so self-conscious.

[Futureboy]

Try Jolen hair bleach it will reduce the appearence

Laser hair removal is very good these days and most effective on dark hair with light skin it is not cheap, but you can do it in stages.