[kayla_kayla77]

I've always been a very skinny girl(fast metabolism..no eating disorders, don't worry), currently I'm 5'6 and around 98 pounds and have 34B breasts, and I hate it.

All the other girls around me have curves and big boobs and get all the guys..and it REALLY doesn't help that I've never had a boyfriend in my entire life, and that the last guy I liked told me that "men want to be with WOMEN...not women that have the bodies of little boys...gain some weight"

This has taken a huge toll on my self esteem. I think about it every single day and cry almost every night because of it. I absolutley hate my body. I refuse to wear swimsuits to the beach(baggy t-shirts and shorts are my best friends in the summer) or clothes that show off my body. I hate shopping. I hate going to school or out somewhere because I always end up seeing other girls and comparing myself to them.

All I ever hear from my friends is "you need to gain weight or get breast/butt implants so you can finally get a man"...

It's not just my thinness that bothers me, either. Its my super-curly hair, big pores, nasty skin, ugly smile, ugly eyes, big feet, big hands, weird looking face...EVERYTHING. And I think about it ALL THE TIME.





I know it seems like I'm whining and I'm really sorry for that. But I can't talk to my friends or family because they don't understand how much this affects me and hurts me. I know all teenage girls feel insecure at some point..but this is getting to be extreme. I don't want to resort to plastic surgery or anything..but I don't know what else to do. How can I stop HATING myself so much?

[PJhavinfunagain]

I would not considder a 34B small especially with the right Bra. Ok you are thin... Are you fit? If you work out then you would have nice tone and definition. AS for your hair and skin those things are easier to work with. Change your hairstyle. Try a new skincare regimen. Find things you like to do and are passionate about. It will make you more confident and place you around people who like similar things which will make meeting people easier. Seriously no matter what you look like if you can live your life for you and not for what other people think you should do or be you will find your way and be happy.

[eleni]

oh love, im sorry you feel so bad about yourself.
its not whining.

a 34B is a lovely size to be
especially if you're thin.
think of jordan! how ridiculous does she look?
you sound completely in proportion.

breasts are mainly fat, but a lot of it is determined by genetics
so even if you do put on weight its not guaranteed to go where you want it to go.

how teenage are you if you dont mind me asking?
if you're still quite young its possible that you're still developing.

and what your friends are saying is ****** <---lots of swearing. RIDICULOUS.
of course you dont need breast implants to get a man.
that makes me so angry.
dont listen to them.
any guy that likes you just for your body is not worth your time.

my best friend (we've been friends for ten years now) was obsessed with the size of her breasts, she was a 32 not even a double A.
she's six foot two, skinny as a rake
and looks like audrey hepburn.
she is seriously stunning
but she fixated on her breasts and as soon as she turned eighteen took out a loan and got implants.
to a 34C.
they looked wrong. from the first day they looked wrong
she was out of proportion for her body type.
and she wasnt any happier
nobody suddenly said 'oh my god! she has larger breasts! i must go out with her'
in fact nobody said very much at all
and she continued to be miserable
now last year she got capsular contracture.
which is where it all goes horribly wrong and filled with scar tissue
the result of which is that she was even more upset and withdrawn and hating her body than before. this went on for eighteen months because she couldnt raise the £4000 to get the operation she needed.
now she's got it fixed and gone down to a 34B which looks much better
but she's going to keep having to have implants until they come up with something better
and she wishes more than anything that she could go back to her original breasts.

sorry, i have a tendency to ramble
but i'd do anything to stop somebody going through what my friend did.

it sounds like you need counselling.
to me it sounds like you're too deep to help yourself out of this fixation with your breasts.
you need to talk to someone professional
to help you learn to love your body for what it is.

honestly i'd give anything to be skinny and a 34B.
you have to make the best of what you've got
and what you've got sounds much better than what most people get.

i know a bit of what you're going through and im truly sorry that you are x

[GlassDaemon]

First and foremost friends are not friends at all if they make you feel bad. I am fat and pudgy, big pours, really coarse body hair that can always be noticed even immediately after shaving, but I can always count on my friends to make me feel hotter than Madonna. Get rid of those friends right now, find new ones. They are not worth your time and they're just beating up your self esteem.

Second, clothes, clothes, clothes. You don't need plastic surgery to be pretty, you need a mind that recognizes and loves who and what you are. If you're uber skinny, try wearing skinny jeans, a fitted tee and a vest. Wear shoes that are comfy and cute, heels are cute with skinny jeans, but if you're skinny enough you can do flats. Get a push up bra! Sure sometimes people call it false advertising lol, but you don't need one of those that give you like two sizes, than you're messing with your own head in the process.

Also, go out and buy yourself some sexy, sexy undies and bras. Spend a little extra to make yourself feel sexy even without clothes, it does loads for you self esteem. One more suggestion I have is to strip naked and pose in front of a full body mirror, every day. Learn to love yourself, you are beautiful, you are amazing. Masturbate in front of the mirror too, watch yourself and your best and at your worst. Find the parts of your body that you love. Me, I love my rear, my hands and my lips. I am beautiful, but not because the media or some nobody told me that, I'm beautiful because I believe it and the people that matter believe it(my family, my friends and my boyfriend).

I didn't get a boyfriend over night either. When all my friends went through countless boyfriends I went through countless nights being singles, years really. Personally I think it's very important to be able to be happy and be single, there is nothing wrong with waiting, you have years and years ahead of you. I'm 19, will be 20 next month and I just lost my virginity at the beginning of this year. I waited until I was ready, how could I expect someone else to find me beautiful if I couldn't?

[Underestimated_33]

hello im in exactly the same position as yourself but i am a 32A/B. I guess i weigh a few pounds more and am a little smaller, but everything else is the same. You are not whining in the slightest in my opinion, i feel exactly the same about myself. This hatred of myself has only lead me to do stupid things, self harm etc. I have told my parents how i feel about myself and they are willing to go to a doctors for perhaps a hormone injection to help with breast growth. They were so supportive when they realised how upset i was, and i thought they would react as you fear your family will. Its embarrassing at first but i think it helps to get things off your chest..

I know what you mean about boys, all my boyfriends/people i have been with comment on how skinny i am, but if they are worth the effort they look past it, and dont seee it as such a huge problem.

For the rest of the things that bother you, you need to look past them and see the good in yourself. Lots of people love curly hair, use this to your advantage or get it chemcially straightened. Just try and focus on the positive not the negative if thats at all possible, and look up tactics to boost self confidence. I genuinely believe EVERYONE has something beautiful about them, whether its on the inside or out. Im sure the same applies to you, even if you dont believe that.

I hope you can begin to appreciate yourself more hon,

[Snuz]

I envy you!!.. I'm 5'8" with A cup and about 114lbs, really thin (even though i eat alot!).. I'd give anything to be 2 inches shorter and have B cups.
I get really annoyed with girls who complain about loosing weight even though they are perfectly healthy looking.. It's NOT fun being thin with no curves and feeling like you're not a proper woman somehow.

[kerry-]

I am the exact same. I went through so much with my body image and I still get self-conscious. Don't worry about not getting a boyfriend, I thought I wouldn't either because of the way my body was. But I've found a great guy who reassures me about my body and loves me the way I am. You will find a guy who will adore your body! I think you are self-conscious about all the other things because you are hung up about the small boobs/ thinness issue. I actually know some guys who DON'T prefer big boobs, (I have lots of guy friends) who say they prefer smaller boobs or are more "leg men". Find your best feature and FLAUNT IT Push up bras are a great little boost too!

[rcoreyus]

For what its worth, I'm a guy and I do not prefer women with "emergency flotation devices" on their chests. There are lots of men who do not prefer big breasted women, or to whom it doesn't matter at all. It is exactly the same way that some women don't want "body builder" type men. One of the great things about life is that there are so many different ideas of beauty that there are lots of people who will find you attractive no mater what your body type.

Also in my case I'd rather spend time with an absolutely ordinary looking cheerful and interesting woman, than with a beauty contest winning airhead.

[IrishGal]

You sound adorable to me! I'm jealous of what you have! Many people would love to have a nice tall thin frame like yourself, so you should feel very blessed. As for chest size.. take it from someone who is top heavy.. its not all its cracked up to be.. u get horrible back problems.. u cant fit into clothes.. and i would love to be a 34B.. ur size is perfect and you sound very proportioned. I think you just need to take a look in the mirror and tell yourself that your beautiful just how you are and work on that self esteem.. because if you think your beautiful.. other people will too.. i know it sounds odd but its really true.. confidence is very attractive and contagious! So keep that pretty chin up and your gonna be fine hun! Keep us posted on how ur doing!

[jns]

When boys come into puberty, they have been force-fed what an ideal body type is by advertisers, their parents, their friends and society in general. Girls at the same age have also been fed the same drivel. Through their teenage years, the lessons keep getting reinforced. When they start to have relationships, they start to find out what they have been fed. Some go along with the program and continue to want what others say is ideal. Many others improve their body image and what they want in a SO and reject those messages.

Myself, I like small breasts. I wouldn't reject a girl who is absolutely flat chested. I would worry about disproportionately breasts and their affect on the personality of the girl who had them. Skinny or pudgy is not a problem either. However, if the girl had bad personality, I would move on, even if she was the most beautiful girl out there according to contemporary standards. If she was too worried about her body image, it would be a problem.

If you fall in love with someone, all of their flaws will seem to be less or even sexy or cute. Your ideals of beauty or handsomeness will change to include the one you are in love with.