[Ashy]

Hi...

So I'm a bit confused and I'd like to know if anyone has any ideas. I took an apointment to the doctor, but since I live in a place where the medical system sucks, it's only in 2 months and a half...

So I'll try to make it short, but gives all details possible.

I'm 28 years old, I had my first period when I was 15, and right then, I was irregular, I could spend a months and a half, two, or even three months without having any period.... at the age of 17 I got serious with a boyfriend, so I started the pills, then it was regular-ish (of course, with the pills...) I'm on the pill since then.

Now this is the unconfortable thing, during that time, I got pregnant 3 times (once at 17, the other at 19 and the last one at 23) I always was on the pills when I got pregnant, and since I wasn't ready in any possible way, I decided it would be better to termiate the pregnancies. That being said, I know it's hard, it's still something I have to live with, I don't need anyone on some forum giving me the moral. if you do want to and nag, feel free to stop reading and move along.

Now knowing that....

I'm with my boyfriend since almost 2 years now and we decided to stop the pills and try to have a baby in... oh last October, without any success. But my period started from being every 27-29 days to once every 30 days.... then 32.... then 35.... and last time it was 40 days and every month, more painful...

Now it's been 43 days, I know, you'll tell me not to worry, get a pregnancy test, and go after that. But I'm actually scared (and trust me when I say this, I'm not someone who's scares easily, I'm pretty strong willed, and to feel like that is not only unnatural for me, it messes me up big time) that if i take the test, it's going to be a big fat MINUS sign on it and that even though I tried to follow a calender and we pushed the dates around and we did actually have sex in the "green time" (I use an iPhone app, the fertile period is green) and even in the days before and after... I'm scared that I wont be, and that i'll be unfertile for some reasons.

So yea, it was mostly to rant... but also, what can make a cycle SO messed up... I'm seriously lost and I hate the fact that I can't see a doctor for another 2.5 months.

[Ashy]

so.... um.... anyone can actually answer?

[Little]

An irregular period CAN be a symptom of infertility.
Maybe you have endometriosis? You should google it, it can cause irregular periods, pain, and infertility. I have a family history of it and most likely have it myself, though it's very costly to actually "diagnose." Its symptoms are treated by the pill, so perhaps that's why it hasn't really manifested until now. I was having 5+ week cycles with severe pain before and during, so an ever-lengthening cycle is probably not out of the question.
The sad thing about gynecology is that there are very few cures for things. All my doctor could do was put me on the pill and refer me to a bottle of Ibuprofen. That may be all that can be done in your case. So should you worry? No, it won't do any good ... but that doesn't make your issues not WORTH worrying about, and I've been where you are.

I must mention this is NOT like most other forums in which people spend all day flaming each other and calling out on their personal morals. Read our rules carefully and you will see we don't allow that sort of thing. If you feel anyone has attacked you personally, you should contact me or another moderator immediately instead of reacting to the other poster.
It takes time to answer a question thoughtfully. It also takes the correct person with the correct amount of knowledge on the subject. Be patient.
Lastly, we have a profanity filter for a reason, and we do not allow people to get around it with symbols. I know you are a new members, but the rules apply equally to everyone.
Patience is all you can really have at this point. If you DO have endometriosis, you may have a hard time getting pregnant. But LOTS of women who have it still conceive and have normal, healthy children. You have probably saved yourself by being on the pill so long ... the only thing that can slow down the damage endo causes is having lighter periods.
Two and a half months is a LONG time to have to wait, so I hope this helps you out. Good luck.

[LanaBear]

Two and a half months is an extremely long wait, but at least you have made an appointment. I had extremely off cycles when I was trying to conceive my first, PCOS.

Those iPhone period apps are awesome, I use one, but they don't take into account that ovulation isn't like clockwork. Read up on basal body temperatures. You will have to record that for a few months before you see any type of cycle, but it helps.

Like Little stated, now it is just a matter of patience, which sucks, but sometimes that's all there is until you can get into you Dr. You can call them sporadically and see if they've had cancellations though.