[jellybean93]

I'm 17, and I was 15 when I was told I needed to expand my hymen before I could use a tampon or have sexual intercourse. Well, I expanded my hymen little by little, and started using tampons when i was 16. I was with my boyfriend and he asked if we could fool around, and I said yes. Well, it led to him trying to have sexual intercourse with me and he couldn't get past my hymen that I already had thought the problem was solved. I am completely fine with not having intercourse for now, however I do not understand how I can use a tampon without being able to have intercourse. Please help me understand my problem.

[littlelily613]

A tampon is a lot smaller than a penis; therefore, probably a lot easier to insert. Not much help, I know, just an observation...

[jellybean93]

Well ya, I know that, but he has inserted 2 fingers, and it hurt a little but not nearly as much as trying intercourse. Thanks though.

[hppacific]

well if u really want to have sex you could just daily or what not try and "loosen it up" i guess. haha sounds kind of akward but i guess you just have to work into it. i had an inverted hymen or whatever when i was born so the dr's had to actually cut a slit so that i would have an opening so when i lost my viginity it hurt sooooo bad. i'd never used a tampon and having someone's gigantic penis go in your tiny slit doesnt feel very good so i can sympathize with you there. but if you arent too interested in having sex at this moment i wouldnt worry about or if you are then you can just take it day by day tryin to loosen it up or have your bf just take it really slow, use lube, and respect your boundaries as far as pain goes and you'll get there.

[jellybean93]

thanks pacific