[electric89]

Hello,

I have already read the guideline for newbies that if I'm looking for answers of ''missed period", don't ask the question here, just read the FAQ or consult the doctors. BUT, I just feel like spilling it out of my chest, hope somebody, anybody will read this; just to make me feel better because I haven't really talked about this matter to anyone in my real life (except to my friend who's a nurse; bought anti-emetic & sleeping pills for me yesterday).

I am 23 year-old medical student, living and studying abroad in a foreign country.

Had unprotected sex on 12/5/2012; he didn't wear condom (he never did) but he pulled out and didn't ejaculate inside of me. This might sound weird, but whenever we did it, I could never really feel where his penis was exactly; inside of my vagina? inside of my anus? I only knew when it hurt, it was my anus.

Got my period the next day on 13/5/2012 and continued for a few days (that was the first time I ever recorded my period date but I didn't remember for how many days it lasted; usually for 4-5 days).

Then had sex on 4/6, 9/6 and 13/6/2012.

If according to 28-day cycle (I am not sure how many days are for me actually), my period should come on 10/6/2012 but it's not there; 9 days late. Took home pregnancy test yesterday morning and it was negative.

I had no abdominal pain nor cramping, no nausea nor vomiting, no backache nor headache. Had 1 acne about last week, I thought it was my PMS week, but still haven't my period yet. My breasts have also started to swell a lil bit (usually this happens during my PMS week); from 32.5" to 34", but it's not painful nor tender, just more 'fuller'. My mood was kind of unstable that week; the more I ate, the more I become fatter, the more I feel depressed of feeling not pretty, but I just couldn't stop eating that week!

But, I am getting more fatigue lately, felt like my energy is draining out of my body. Didn't document my body temperature but it was hot last 2 days; took panadol and have become slightly better now. But I always had fever a few days before my period.

Last week, I ate everything I could; my appetite was so high. But, since yesterday, suddenly, I didn't feel like eating anything at all. That was just not so me.

Last 2 days I drank parsley tea and felt nauseous the next day, vomited immediately after eating a few slices of pineapple, so, I stop drinking it and changed to take vitamin c (500 mg/hr) starting from today because I have read on the net that this can bring on my period; but it's still not there.

Please, I am afraid if I might be pregnant, I really hope that I am not. Any advice would be highly appreciated.

Thanks!

-electric

[electric89]

I guess it'll be better to make a quick summary:

12/5/ : had sex

13/5 : had period for May; lasted a few days

*16/5 - 3/6 : final exams; very stressed weeks

4/6 : had sex

9/6 : had sex

*10/6 : period for June should come today but it wasn't there

13/6 : had sex

19/6 : today - still waiting - no period

[electric89]

Suddenly, I thought of something.

For these past few months, I have been trying to naturally enlarge my breast and losing some weight at the same time, but I haven't done anything drastic yet and I wasn't so consistent. I have just been pumping my breast and put some herbs into my daily food.

But, I have also heard that, food like lentils, fennel, aniseed, fenugreek and others that are high in phytoestrogen can delay your period? But, contrary, I have read in a website (which I have forgotten what's the link) said that, phytoestrogen can help bring on your period.

Do you think that these herbs that I have been eating more than usual last month, could have any effect on my delayed period for this month?

So, I have a few thoughts why my period for this month is delayed (which I hope will come soon and not totally missed):
-due to weeks of stress and anxious because of my final exams
-herbs taken to naturally enlarge breast
-pregnancy (I hope it won't be this one!)
-natural irregular period (I have had these episodes of irregular periods, but I didn't do sex before this, so, I wasn't so worried back then)

[KMonte85]

Changes in diet, stress, and a history of irregular period are all reason you may not have your period when you thought you would. If you're having unprotected sex, pregnancy is another reason.

We can't tell you if you're pregnant or not. The fact that you took a HPT and it came out negative means you're probably not. Take another one to be sure, or go to a doctor and have them test you.

And if you're very concerned about accidental pregnancy, then you must do EVERYTHING in your power to not get pregnant in the future. Meaning, having protected sex with the use of some form of reliable birth control.

[electric89]

Thank you

Changes in diet, stress, and a history of irregular period are all reason you may not have your period when you thought you would. If you're having unprotected sex, pregnancy is another reason.

We can't tell you if you're pregnant or not. The fact that you took a HPT and it came out negative means you're probably not. Take another one to be sure, or go to a doctor and have them test you.

And if you're very concerned about accidental pregnancy, then you must do EVERYTHING in your power to not get pregnant in the future. Meaning, having protected sex with the use of some form of reliable birth control.

Hey KMonte85,

Thanks for your reply, well, I bought another 3 packets of HPT today, will start again testing tomorrow morning. Hopefully it'll stay negative! *praying hard*

I think I have learned my lesson, I hope nobody else will ever do unprotected sex if they are afraid of getting pregnant. A few hours of unprotected sex don't worth that many weeks of anxiety, paranoid and stress that you'll have to bear after that. Protect yourselves, and always be safe.

[electric89]

I am still anxious thus had to pop another two sleeping pills last night to sleep, did another HPT this morning and it's still negative. Thanks God. But I can't be 100% sure until I have my period. >.<

I feel like I am going to continue writing my updates here until my period comes; amazingly, writing here has a therapeutic effect on me, LOL. :P

[electric89]

Yesterday, I had this feeling of relief that I knew I wasn't pregnant. But, suddenly my friend called me and said, he called a doctor and the doctor was so sure that I was pregnant. They advised me to get my blood checked.

So, immediately, I went to a clinic but got rejected because I am not married yet I might be pregnant. I felt awful and dirty the way that nurse looked at me. She said it's illegal to get blood check for non-married ladies in this country, if I was insisted to be checked, she would have to call the police. So, I just left the clinic in tears and was clueless; I hope she didn't call the police and talk about it to anyone else. I don't want things to get complicated. I REALLY hate to hear the word "police", because I had been sexually assaulted so many times here (I couldn't remember how many), and the last time I brought my case to the court, the guy got away. So, what's the point of telling the police here?

To make it short, I was so distressed yesterday, I felt such a bad disrespectful kid, then suicidal thoughts kept on coming to my mind; that was totally not me who's always been positive most of the time.

I have been avoiding people this week, I don't answer calls, I don't reply messages; but last night, I finally called a few of my girls to dine outside together. I didn't talk about the matter, I kept it private. But, I felt somewhat relieved and calmed to be with them.

And guess what? Got my period this morning. I am relieved. Lord hears my silent prayers; I got my another chance in this life and hopefully won't do this silly mistake again. :')

To other girls who read this post; love yourselves, think twice before you do anything. Take care! <3