[mercy]

Can anyone tell me a safe way to masturbate. I usually use a bottle of perfurm with a nice shape and wrap it with a condom, then i insert in my virgina, is this safe. I spend a week without seeing my husband.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi Mercy,

You state in your introduction that you need a friend.

We can be that.

I recall one thread that emphasised the amount of man made products that could be used.

But also without correct cleaning they can cause infections.

Condoms sound safe, but why can't you try with your own body? Fingers, you, experimenting and also Man made products such as vibrators?

I way understand that we can experience the same feel without vibrators I have, do...

But i am curious over this comment... purfume bottles with a condom over it?

CW

[mercy]

Have u ever do it, or is this normal

[CHANDLERS WISH]

i think you need to re-read what i wrote...

There is nothing wrong with you finding something that "suits" you, providing it is clean and you put a condom on there, and you use lube for yourself, so you don't get thrush.

I just don't understand why you don't experiement with your own body, fingers, or sex toys, dont' be scared, you are doing nothing wrong at all, people use all sorts of things, to masterbate..

Just make sure that they are clean with hot water, steaming hot water...

CW

[justkimmie]

I agree with CW, I would try my fingers, but you can also order 'products' that can do the job for you...they order and ship discretly so no one knows what you are getting. I would be afraid that a perfume bottle might break...then, you've got a whole other list of problems from that.

[miffed23]

I dont know the size of the perfume bottle youre using, but just be careful that you dont 'loose' it when masterbating. I mean that in all seriousness.

CW offered great advice. I would recommend investing in a sex toy, as they are specifically designed for masterbation purposes. If youre concerned about your privacy when ordering a sex toy - you can order over the internet and the packaging is extremely discreet. Your delivery man wont have any idea what youve ordered.

Be safe. Good luck.

[WildChild]

Or take a field trip to the local adult shoppe. We have some that are more geared to women or couples. There is almost always a woman working there who can be helpful and they have often tried most of the products. Then you can be certain of using something designed to fit in your body and not easily 'lost'. My sweet told me the story of someone he met whose gf had slipped in a bullet type vibrator before going out to dinner. Somehow it got 'lost'. lodged against her cervix and they couldn't a hold of it - probably she was too tensed up. She was in tears and in pain. They ended up in the emergency room. Miffed is right, you need to be careful what you use and how. (I think this type of problem is more common with people trying to be creative with anal play).

Anyway a good toy would be a better choice. Maybe hubby would like to go with you? Then when you talk to him on the phone or email and tell him how much you miss him, he'll have a good mental picture to play with? Don't get too hooked on vibes, studies show they can reduce your sensitivity, but they do have their uses. I'm with CW, my fingers do the job just fine, except for your g-spot and inner clit, all those 8000 never endings are in your cilitorus!

[mercy]

Thanx ladies, i'll take u r advice and visit an aldult shop.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well not only that , as that will give you things with "instructions" maybe.

But google things as well so you know what you can do on your own and how, google masterbation for a woman for instance.

It's not easy working it out on your own so do a little research ok.

Take care

CW

[meg40185]

I would invest in a few good personal massagers. You can order things online that come in plain packaging so that no one will know what it is that you've ordered. Or just try taking a hot bath and experimenting with your fingers. I would skip the perfume bottle...you never know what could end up happening with that. Good luck to you!