[Alpha_Girl]

My boyfriend doesn't enjoy having his balls played with at all - the most I've ever gotten away with is cupping them while I'm giving him a blowjob. I have no reservations whatsoever about giving them a LOT more attention but any time I start kissing, licking, playing with them he tells me he doesn't like it - but he does it with this impish grin on his face that leads me to believe that he IS enjoying it, but doesn't want me to continue.

I find this wicked frustrating because I have had boyfriends who absolutely LOVED it and it seems to me that the majority of men do, and I think he's missing out on a lot of pleasure. Have any other women had this problem? What did you do to bring him around?

He is quite a bit older than me so I worry I might not be able to teach this "old dog" a new trick :-\

Any advice is appreciated!

[Phoebee]

Some men are very sensitive there. Ask him if contact is painful. DH had a run with the mumps that caused Orchitis and that caused him a lifetime of Orchialgia which is chronic pain of the testes.

If he doesn't have pain issues maybe he has the idea that you might be into causing him harm there? Check that out as well.

If all else fails start squeezing and tell him he BETTER enjoy this or else! ;-) Ok, just kidding do NOT do that...

[silvertae]

Maybe the "impish grin" is just his way of softening the blow of saying that he doesn't like it. It can be hard to receive criticism like that so he might be trying to make it easier on you by continuing to smile. You're just gonna have to ask him for an honest answer about whether he really likes it and it just playing coy, or if it actually does make him feel uncomfortable/is too sensitive. Ask him outside of the bedroom sometime, saying that you want to make sure you're giving him all the pleasure he deserves, so you just want to make sure he really doesn't want you touching his balls or if there's something else going on.

[Alpha_Girl]

Thanks to both of you :^)

I had considered that the smile was to soften the blow (pun intended!) but it's really uncharacteristic of his personality - he's more the type to come right out and "don't do that ever again" if he was really uncomfortable about it ... I will have to ask him sometime, away from the bedroom as you suggested.

I think it might be a sensitivity thing as his whole package tends to get sore pretty easily. Maybe I am being selfish re: the balls - his penis is on the smaller side (which is OK by me) and being granted access to that area would give me a little more territory to cover! I guess communication is gonna be the key here.

Thanks again!

[sTyLeRock]

Peronsally i like it, but it has to be soft... Balls r very sensitive to pain :P

[thack]

sometimes they can be tender from arousal, that could be an issue.

I have only ran into that after long periods without sex and when very turned on though.

But on a normal day, its very enjoyable when done the way I like it. Definitely gotta be careful :P

[angel7 baby]

yeah alot of men dont want there "jewels" being
touched. my boyfriend doesnt really like it and he
tells me it makes him feel less masculine. but when
hes really in the mood it doesnt too much bother
him if i gently stroke and massage his boys but thats
pretty much all i can do without a complaint.

[thack]

I have never felt any less masculine from having them rubbed or whatever. I find it to be a large turn on (in my mind that little extra equates into the over all "into it" feeling *see other post by me in this section, lol*)

There are a lot of women that do not even think to mess with them, and if you learn to do it the right way, you will definitely stand out to your man (as far as his memories of past sexual experiences). But if he does not like it, then just don't push the issue, just learn what he ~does~ like and focus on that.

But with that all being said, we all know what "blue balls" are, and sometimes if the man is super aroused, getting ready for sex, they can swell or get semi-sore, so that can cause some discomfort, but like I said, the only time I have experienced that was after going for a while without any sex, self or partnered. lol.... (I deploy from time to time)

Definitely a talking point when not IN the act in my opinion.

[Guest]

but he does it with this impish grin on his face that leads me to believe that he IS enjoying it,
Any advice is appreciated!

I know this is an old thread but there is a good chance he does really enjoy it, but because it's so intense, he tells you stop!

It would be interesting to know how he's doing now since you posted last about this!

Don't want to respond, I understand

[Alpha_Girl]

I know this is an old thread but there is a good chance he does really enjoy it, but because it's so intense, he tells you stop!

It would be interesting to know how he's doing now since you posted last about this!

I will definitely respond after I see him again We have a semi-long-distance relationship and only see each other most weekends... I'll see him next weekend and will definitely report back!!

I suspect that he really does enjoy it, but it's a masculinity issue... that somehow, admitting that he enjoys it makes him feel less masculine... but I don't get that, considering that it's a huge part of what makes him a guy.... and him being a guy is, like, so COOL! To me, anyway