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  • no_desire33
    Member
    • Nov 2008
    • 10

    crying during oral sex?

    I am female and I have never enjoyed oral being performed on me.. I have allowed it only a select few times in my life...

    My husband loves to do it.. but I just hate it!!!! AS SOON as he starts, my feet feel like they are on fire and they start to twitch!! BAD!! and I hate this feeling.. he keeps telling me to just deal with it then I will cum.. but I seriously could not stand another second of the burning and twitching.. I started to cry bc it was so uncomfortable

    Am I the only one???
  • WildChild
    Banned
    • Sep 2008
    • 14142

    This is not unusual, I get it too, only I interpret it differently and love it! Get thee a copy of Extended Massive Orgasm by the Doctors Bodansky. They are experts in female orgasm and sensuality. The loving response to something your lover is uncomfortable with is to stop doing it and find something they enjoy! So tell the H to move on, find another spot to focus on, maybe get off your clit and work around it? Seriously get the books on EMO, it deals primarily with pleasuring a woman by hand rather than oral or intercourse. There is a workbook as well as the book.

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    • miffed23
      Veteran Member
      • Mar 2008
      • 568

      I doubt it.

      The reason why it hurts is probably due to how psychologically uncomfortable you are about recieving oral. If youre all tense and nervous, it will hurt... your man needs to be a little more supportive, i'd also suggest telling him to start incredibly softly...until you relax... your clitoris is packed full of nerve endings, if he is starting off with too much pressure, its bound to be uncomfortable.

      Irradicate all the negativity that you have connected to oral...easy to say, i know...and start afresh, slowly, softly... convincing yourself that it IS going to feel awesome (because, it does, honest)

      I believe the solution is to think positive and tell you man to be gentle.

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      • sTyLeRock
        Senior Member
        • Aug 2008
        • 103

        Can i ask, does he just jump in and go straight onto clitoral Stimulation?

        Does this burning/insane/sensitive feeling happen right from the get go?

        My Girlfriend also feels like this after i give her a Clitoral Orgasm she'll go massivly sensitive and i'll have to give her a break, or give her vaginal orgasms untills he is rdy for more oral

        -Daniel

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        • Guest

          i hadn't heard of this yet. but i will take a guess and agree with miffed. have him start off slowly, lightly, softly. and then maybe you can relax and enjoy it more.
          again, i never this before but now i know for possible future.

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          • no_desire33
            Member
            • Nov 2008
            • 10

            Receiving oral does not hurt.. it's just umcomfortable.. and I am relaxed when he does it.. I just HATE it and can't take it for that long!! and he is really gentle.. it's just hard for me to like it.. I never have!

            He does go right for the clit... but when he's not right on it, I still don't enjoy it.. I don't like my legs spread open right in his face!

            Is the clitoral orgasm feel different when you recieve one then when you give one yourself?? (does that make sense?)

            Thank you everyone!

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            • sTyLeRock
              Senior Member
              • Aug 2008
              • 103

              hmm

              Do you feel this sensation while u or ur partner is rubbing your clit/flingering you? or is it just the sensation of his tounge?

              have u tried oral in different positions? you sitting on his face? you on all fours and him lying down behind you? him lying on bed with his head just off and u standing above?

              -Daniel

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              • Heatwave
                Member
                • Feb 2008
                • 52

                Originally posted by sTyLeRock

                My Girlfriend also feels like this after i give her a Clitoral Orgasm she'll go massivly sensitive and i'll have to give her a break, or give her vaginal orgasms untills he is rdy for more oral

                -Daniel
                Hellooooo
                I'm getting my bf to read this
                !

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                • sTyLeRock
                  Senior Member
                  • Aug 2008
                  • 103

                  Heatwave

                  Hey heatwave,

                  Do you go sensitive after a clitoral orgasm as well?

                  If so can i ask how long for you before he can even touch you near the clit again?

                  Thanks
                  -Daniel

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                  • Alpha_Girl
                    Junior Member
                    • Nov 2008
                    • 9

                    Originally posted by sTyLeRock
                    My Girlfriend also feels like this after i give her a Clitoral Orgasm she'll go massivly sensitive and i'll have to give her a break, or give her vaginal orgasms untills he is rdy for more oral

                    -Daniel
                    I am the same way; after I come during oral sex I can't let him touch me there for at least 15 minutes to 45, depending on how hard my orgasm is. Sometimes I have to literally wrench his head off of me and pull him up just to get him away from my clit... but believe me, after that time frame I am ready again, with a vengeance. Poor guy should have his ears ripped off by now
                    Infinity could just be time on an ego trip.
                    -TSFSOILITU

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