[zeos133]

well, you sound like a great catch and its sad he doesn't give you what you want. a non-compatable sex life is very difficult to live with even if you love everything else about the person. I hope you find a guy that satisfies you in all aspects of your life because if you are this open about sex you'll definitely find a guy that will be more than willing to do oral. I wish my gf was as willing as you! haha

[2morrow]

I know how you feel, trust me.

I think zeos133 is right tho, when he says its a chemistry thing. I was the one who initiated our relationship, I was totally smitten by him. Maybe that was the difference.
We are alot older than you and your boyfriend, we both come from long term marriages, maybe something happened prior to me. I don't know.

All I know is that he has received my best, I was passionate for him. Giving orally was not a problem, he got some awesome blowJ's, and I loved to give them. I would whisper in his ear to give me an orgasm orally but he never would. So upsetting, when I think about it, it makes me want to cry. Honestly...
Ex pro hockey player, hot to look at, but a lousy lover....pity. He was always saying how beautiful I am, how gorgeous my body is, but wouldn't even attempt oral, or make sure I had an orgasm. Never. That is why he is now curbside.

There are alot of guys like sTyleRock, who know how to rock there woman's world. Go find one.

[zeos133]

its a hard decision to leave someone because of probems in bed, but sometimes it may be necessary. after reading 2morrow's story it seems apparent that the guy she was with didn't truly love her and she made the right decision to leave. But if the guy you are currently with is truly madly in love with you and the reason he doesn't like to give oral has nothing to do with you then maybe you can work something out. I'm not sure if I'm making sense here. Its a slippery slope. In my opinion, if the guy really loved you he'd find a way to overcome his objection to oral and give you the pleasure you want, need, and deserve. I guess it comes down to what is more important to you, oral or him? In some ways, my situation is similar. My gf does not go down on me as much as I'd prefer, but apparently it is enough to keep me relatively satisfied because I have no desire to leave her. I'm madly in love with her, so if she is not into giving me oral all the time I've accepted that. Its similar with anal sex. I could claim that having anal sex is essential to my sexual satisfaction, but it ain't happening with my girl and it would be very silly for me to leave her over this.

You said you haven't stopped giving him everything he wants, which is probably a good thing because withholding could create negativity. But are you really giving him everything because you enjoy it? You give him BJ's because you love giving BJ's? That's amazing to me. I don't know how you could enjoy doing this knowing that he probably won't reciprocate. Though, I guess I do that sometimes too. There are days that I really want to go down on my gf even though I know I might not get the same back. But other times I have less interest because if I go down on her I'm going to want the same in return and knowing I won't get it sorta bums me out and so I loose my desire. So here's where I'm going with this. If you're still giving BJ's because you absolutely love sucking him then by all means keep doing it, for your pleasure! But if you're doing it to please him because in the back of your mind you believe that by giving him everything he wants he'll eventually give you everything you want...then stop. Guys don't operate that way. Think about it, if you're already giving him everything he wants then why would he change the way he treats you? He has no incentive. Guy's can be like dogs, you have to teach them to do tricks by rewarding them with little treats. In my house I know that a BJ is a treat. When I do something really great for my girl, something sweet or romantic, I usually get a treat. And this is a good thing to me. Sure I'd prefer a BJ every night, but would I really deserve it? Probably not. In your case it doesn't have to be a BJ, but maybe you can think of something else that would be a treat for your boyfriend in reward for him giving you oral.

[ChristinaAnn2008]

Well i am the reversed situation,

My girl gets eaten usually every time before sex, i rarely get a bj.. but i've had awsome BJ's in my life and my current g/f isn't the best but not bad, not sure what to tell her to do it better though O.o

But yeah i love eating my girl out, she was on the comp last night playing sims lol i sneaked under table and started eating her, then i told her to surf the net for porn while eating her and she loved it.

i dunno, i do wish she gave me more BJ's but also for it to feel better then it is atm? i dunno


Laters
-Daniel

give her tips on how you would like it better.. while she is in the act of doing it suggest different ways to do it.. involve syrup or whip cream into it and make a point to let her know your liking it more if it helps.

[h0ney]

you said you haven't stopped giving him everything he wants, which is probably a good thing because withholding could create negativity. But are you really giving him everything because you enjoy it? You give him BJ's because you love giving BJ's? That's amazing to me. I don't know how you could enjoy doing this knowing that he probably won't reciprocate. Though, I guess I do that sometimes too. There are days that I really want to go down on my gf even though I know I might not get the same back. But other times I have less interest because if I go down on her I'm going to want the same in return and knowing I won't get it sorta bums me out and so I loose my desire. So here's where I'm going with this. If you're still giving BJ's because you absolutely love sucking him then by all means keep doing it, for your pleasure! But if you're doing it to please him because in the back of your mind you believe that by giving him everything he wants he'll eventually give you everything you want...then stop. Guys don't operate that way. Think about it, if you're already giving him everything he wants then why would he change the way he treats you? He has no incentive. Guy's can be like dogs, you have to teach them to do tricks by rewarding them with little treats. In my house I know that a BJ is a treat. When I do something really great for my girl, something sweet or romantic, I usually get a treat. And this is a good thing to me. Sure I'd prefer a BJ every night, but would I really deserve it? Probably not. In your case it doesn't have to be a BJ, but maybe you can think of something else that would be a treat for your boyfriend in reward for him giving you oral.

way off the mark there lol.. i actually LOVE giving bjs, i have a BJ fetish.. way before i met him ive always been a oral fanatic in that way, so it isnt like im going in with the intention that he has to return the favor because im giving him a bj, im doing it because i LOVE to do it. i think i do it more for me than i do for him most of the time.. i never feel its an obligation, i genuinely do like to please when it comes to that and enjoy ever aspect of giving.

if i was only doing it for his pleasure i wouldve stopped giving him bjs a long time ago since he doesnt give oral much. but i would hate to stop because its not just about him getting pleasure from it, but i get something out of it as well.. i'd honestly feel like it was a punishment if i had to stop giving.

if i dont enjoy doing something i wont do it, but everything i do with him i enjoy, i enjoy anal, i enjoy giving, swallowing, heck i even let him gag me.

so its not like im just doing all of this stuff for him, i get something out of it as well.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

The only thing I read, was "he lied"..

He stated he loves it but really he was saying it to continue down the path of getting you, he wanted you so badly he didn't want to stuff anything up. So, he tries, but can't quite get the full liking of it.

I hate that when I am lied to there is nothing worse in my opinon, even if it is because he fell in love with you and didn't want to lose you.

Think you need to point that out to him and therefore, he may realise that is the case and make more of an effort and hopefully get the full liking of giving and receiving.

CW

[zeos133]

The only thing I read, was "he lied"..

He stated he loves it but really he was saying it to continue down the path of getting you, he wanted you so badly he didn't want to stuff anything up. So, he tries, but can't quite get the full liking of it.

I hate that when I am lied to there is nothing worse in my opinon, even if it is because he fell in love with you and didn't want to lose you.

Think you need to point that out to him and therefore, he may realise that is the case and make more of an effort and hopefully get the full liking of giving and receiving.

CW

Or, in the beginning he didn't realize how much more you liked it than he did. But I partially agree, it doesn't see like he was fully honest about it.

I'm glad you enjoy everything you do with him. Honestly, you sound pretty happy overall. The only thing lacking is oral for you. Its a shame, but if you like everything else about the relationship I'm not sure if its worth ending. Most guys never get BJ's from their girls even though they really want it. Sounds to me like you're in our shoes!

[h0ney]

I know how you feel, trust me.

I think zeos133 is right tho, when he says its a chemistry thing. I was the one who initiated our relationship, I was totally smitten by him. Maybe that was the difference.
We are alot older than you and your boyfriend, we both come from long term marriages, maybe something happened prior to me. I don't know.

All I know is that he has received my best, I was passionate for him. Giving orally was not a problem, he got some awesome blowJ's, and I loved to give them. I would whisper in his ear to give me an orgasm orally but he never would. So upsetting, when I think about it, it makes me want to cry. Honestly...

hmm it was reversed for us, i wasnt physically attracted to him when we first met, i was ready to "friend zone" him, but he was persistant in asking me out on a date, after awhile of running out of excuses to not date him i decided to give him a chance and the rest is history.

although i dont regret giving him a chance i wish i wouldnt have jumped so quickly into a relationship with him before i could see how compatible we really were behind closed doors, it was his personality that eventually won me over, so i overlooked the sexual aspect of things and was happy at the time being.

now its a year later and im starting to see things a bit more clearly now and i realize that crucial part is missing, i agree with chandlers wish that he couldve just been saying this to reach his ultimate goal (getting me)

i havent brought this up again with him yet but im going to see him this weekend, plan to discuss it a bit further.

[Shannon1]

I think you should definetely talk to him about this, but is he still insists that its something he just doesn't like to do, then I would explain to him that when you are in a relationship, sometimes you have to just do the things you may or may not want to do, because in a relationship, its always about giving and receiving, and thats not just about sex either. Thats life. If he is not willing to do something so minimal, I would question his intentions with the entire relationship...Is he just being selfish and lazy, or is he really just not that into you to take the extra steps to make you happy? because when you love/ or care deeply for someone, your main goal is to please them and make them happy. Of course this is with in reason, and it sounds to me like what your asking is not that big of deal, and he should just suck it up and deal with it. I don't particularly enjoy giving BJs to my hubby all the time either, but I still give it to him, at least a couple times a week. And I do that because I love him, want to make him happy, and most importantly...I know he will never need to get it elsewhere as long as he's getting it at home!!! So try talking, pleading your case, and if that doesn't work, find out what his real intentions are with you.

[WildChild]

If his problem is an issue of hygene why not try a dental dam? I understand that Saran Wrap works well for this. Maybe he could start working into it that way? Another option is to get the Drs Bodansky's book, Extended Massive Orgasm and have him start learning to pleasure you by hand.