[acerousme]

Yea...I dont want to break his heart...

kms- you basically said all that needed to be said...lol

I dont get it...I just cannot help myself.

[WildChild]

Ace, In-Need is right on this one. Think carefully, are you on any kind of BC? How do you really feel about this young man? My guess would be you are more likely to get emotionally entangled.
There are women who stay 'virgins' by not having vaginal sex and limit themselves to anal only. But don't be doing this just to get it over with so to speak or because you've been a tad horny. Be sure you are really aroused, this guy really turns you on and this is what you really want!

[SinisterUrge]

Buy a strap-on and tell him he gets to go first.

[Little]

From a peer POV (and personal experience) it's reeeeeeeeeely awkward to explain why you lost your anal V-card before your vaginal one. And anal sex takes a lot more mutual trust than vaginal. A rule that you should learn now:
Having sex does not make men want to be your boyfriend.
I repeat:
HAVING SEX DOES NOT MAKE MEN WANT TO BE YOUR BOYFRIEND.
I don't know why it is, but I've tested this rule in its various forms over the past few years, and it's right. The caps lock isn't just for you ... it's for any girl who reads this thread.
But absolutely try Sinister's response :P Friendships, especially with benefits, are full of give and take. Why does he expect to take if you can't give?

[Guest]

HAVING SEX DOES NOT MAKE MEN WANT TO BE YOUR BOYFRIEND.

Not a truer statement could be said when it comes to relationships. If and I'll say both genders could understand this to the fullest, there would be less heartaches. Of course we all have our learning curves. But, the sooner the better!

[acerousme]

kay...so Maybe we will just be friends with benefits.
This is really hard for me, you know?
I just....dont know what I want.
I see all of my friends having a great time with their men, and Im all alone.
....it just sucks.

I can tell you this...This guy, hes very nice...a little insecure...I dont find him physically attractive (omg...I sound so shallow), but there is something about him, and how he looks at me....

AHHHH....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

ACE

I just....dont know what I want.

ACE

I see all of my friends having a great time with their men, and Im all alone.

Ah man??? WT??? ACE????

See this is the thing... They do it, you have to, you don't want to via the vagina as you well don't, and so you are compromising, geez ? The guy didn't even wait til he was with you and find an "option"?

Goodness, so he is "pre-planning?"

So that makes you a willing partner, in um, sex, nothing more, no cuddles, say good bye to those, mind you he was doing them cause your good looking, smart with conversation but also "willing" as you discussed what you haven't but what you would do yeah?

Since when did ACE do what "everyone else did?" bahhhhhhh oh no that's a sheep...

See?

Pfttt girlfriend...

See, your body is your temple, you can use it to seduce, you can use it to "be" you can use it to feel but you can't really use it to "give" without "feeling, desiring, just giving so you can gossip with "friends" and since when were they friends? They probably feel well something... can't say here... who knows how their relationship is? Talk is Talk and rubbish walks, couldn't say that word either haha.

Listen young lady...

Here it is black and white...

"YOUR NOT SURE" (Little did good by highlighting so I will copy)
"THEY DO WHAT AM I MISSING OUT ON".

Up the butt? If you are going to do it and don't give a bother about your body just want to experience do it the right way, front first.

If you don't really want that and want what you keep telling us you want, cuddles and warmth ( and we WARNED YOU, guys will cuddle and then ask for it) this one did,then hang about and ask the guy for a card and flower and you'll decide when you are ready.

Besides, him, the red head, then the guy around the corner, the one that comes to work, the new guy at your new work ( oops, you haven't met him yet), someone on an internet site and then the blonde... etc,etc...

Use the intelligence that you have shown, what does all the above " and other posters say really? "

haha.

grrrr

Pfftttt

CW

[Little]

You're stuck with your first sexual experiences for the rest of your life. Sure, you're stuck with the other ones, too, but the first one stands out, and if it's negative it's more like it "haunts."
I guarantee you that half of your friends who are "having fun" wish they would have waited at one point or another. It's not a matter of boyfriend, husband, whatever (me losing it to my fiancé wasn't the right time for me.) It's a matter of how you feel and why you want to. Don't do it because you're jealous. Do it because you're hopelessly turned on and emotionally connected to a man. You'll smile at the memory later.

[acerousme]

...you guys make TOO MUCH SENSE.

I have decided to keep him around for a bit...not as a bum buddy....but just as a friend, and we shall go from there. I mean, we are practically dating right now...he texts me when he wakes up, and goes to sleep, on his lunch breaks...we go to movies and such.

....OMG....I have wayy too many guys in my life! I need to simplify...well, the old guy from work...hes gone...we wont be seeing eachother again....The one guy...now has a girlfriend...that kinda hurt...so he's gone...
lol

In all honesty, after talking to someone who knows me well (you know who u are)...not that you all dont know me well...
I've come to conclude that he is not the one that I would like my first time to be with. I want it to be special. Like, crinkle my toes and scream special.

[kms]

^ Sounds like a well thought-out decision!

I'm sure the friends with benefits thing is tempting because it's an easy way to get your needs satisfied, but that only works if both parties agree to that... cuz again it sounds like he's really into you - texting you when he wakes up? Goes to sleep? Actually it sounds like he's crazy about you and probably thinks about you nonstop and daydreams about you in class...