[lotus_girl]

Ok. so i've been in love with my best friend for four years now. hes the best person i've ever met and all that jazz. but last night he told me that he was bi. (i was the first person that hes told) which is cool because i am also but right afterwards he asked me if i would be his girl friend. which i have been waiting for him to ask for a very long time but it just seemed strange to me that he would ask me this right after telling me somthing like that. idk if its just me but yea..



*** really sorry for the crappy grammer lol***

[acerousme]

Okay, first off...WELCOME!
a few things u should know...
ONE-dont listen to a guy called LIVELAUGHLOVE...lol...just kidding, hes great.lol
TWO- I am ACE...nice to meet you lotus.

now, Im glad that he asked you to be his girlfriend. But it sounds to me that you need to figure out the boundaries...is it an "open" relationship?
The fact that he confided in you is GREAT, take pride in it. You two are well on your way to a great relationship. TRUST IS A MUST!

[lotus_girl]

why thank you
=)
i know i've got to trust him and i do. but ever sence he told me i cant stop thinking that i'm just a cover for him you know? because all of his friends are completely homophobic which is kind of sad. but like if he has a girlfriend then no one would find out that he does have feelings for men.

[acerousme]

okay....this is just a suggestion, but I think you should talk to him about it. ASK him just how he feels, ask him if you are a coverup, and tell him how you really feel about him. And if he says he really does like you...trust him.
ask him just what he has "experienced" and such.
I have to ask, just how old are you both?
your age will help me give you better advice...lol

[lotus_girl]

hes 19 and i'm 17

[acerousme]

WE'VE GOT A YOUNG ONE....!!!!!!!
yay!!! A little sister in our WH family!
Im 19...lol...
so I can relate...kind of...lol
So he's 19...and from what I can tell, he is quite mature for his age. (NICE CATCH!)
But seriously...talk to him about it. Just remind him that he can trust you.
but ya, I think its important for you two to talk.

[lotus_girl]

lol >.<
yea we are right now
thanks for the help ace =)

[acerousme]

Keep me posted, Love!!!!
I wanna know ALLL!...no detail spared!

[lotus_girl]

ok so we talked for like 3 hours last night and we got everything out.
i suggested to him that maybe i was just like a cover up for his friends, and that if i was then i wasn't gonna be mad, i would just like to know so we could find out what to do.
and he just laughed and said that just because he was bi didn't mean that he couldn't love a girl and not a guy. and apparently hes partial to girls.
which made me feel so much better about the whole situation
i dont see why i worried about it so much. i know hes not gonna cheat on me, lol.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

See, if you don't communicate you wonder...

And, then if you wonder, you come up with all sorts of but, what if, um, well.....

So, now you have communicated and have an understanding..

Good luck with your relationship.

Seems ACE gave some good advice.

CW