[CHANDLERS WISH]

just for peoples peace of mind, age is a number, i grew up really fast, my parents split when i was 10 so i had no choice. Just because im under age does not mean i am any less mature than you all, like i said i grew up fast and i'm not a stupid young teenager. I dont get drunk ever i love school and we ARE having safe sex. i've known him for a couple of years and we are best friends. thanks to little, this board is open for women and men of ALL ages. just because i'm not sixteen yet does not mean i cant voice my opinion. all i wanted was some advice and instead i got a some sort of growling even though i stated i'd heard the lectures before. This is a changing world and people are losing their virginties alot sooner than twenty or thirty years ago. I was 14 when i first had sex and still to this day do not regret it. Thanks heaps to those who offered advice!

Buddy, no need to make any apology what so ever.

I think also if you look at some of the other posts in the sex section your problem is shared by all ages.

I think because you say you get "close" that it's a mind thing only, perhaps embarassment?

Relaxing your mind and not thinking about it at all, just enjoying your relationship may help you.

CW

[rachelatl]

I suggest closing your eyes and just imaging something steamy and try to relax !

[Little]

There isn't enough safe, honest information being given to sexually active underage individuals. While I really think that you should be safe in a legal sense and refrain from sexual action until you're considered by your state to be capable of making your own decision, you should be equipped with information that will keep you emotionally and physically safe if you decide to do it anyways.
If your boyfriend is 18 or older though, you need to realize that there is probably a power dynamic going on in your relationship. It's probably not a completely healthy situation. But if your biggest problem is a lack of orgasm, then it can't be all bad.
It's pretty common for women not to orgasm. It's probably compounded by age and inexperience. Personally, as I got older and more comfortable with myself and my partner, sex and sexual activity went from absolutely numb to multi-orgasmic. It's all about the positive attitude that you seem to have. You'll be there in no time.

[buddy]

Chandlers wish, um yeah it is kind of an embarresment coz i know he can make other girls cum, and i feel a little frustrated with myself haha just wish it would happen!

Rachelatl, i have tried that and i still do, and yes it does help

Little, yeah i guess it must be learning to be comfortable and confident in yourself, he knows that i am shy about my body, i dont like being on top either,....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Chandlers wish, um yeah it is kind of an embarresment coz i know he can make other girls cum, and i feel a little frustrated with myself haha just wish it would happen!

Fear of , were they better? Why did they and I can't.. Makes you not relax and feel comfortable, I so hate it when guys decide to tell their current girlfriend what other's did, sort of bragging on their behalf, but also if you are shy as you are, then also making you feel like you have to perform, or else there is something wrong with you.

WELL.... There is NOT......

Understand that bit and don't feel you have to do anything... Sounds to me like you are wanting to do this so that you can equal or better those before you.. That's not what a relationship is about, you are an individual... Respect of each other and time... I am sure he understands this.

Little is right too... Age is not the barrier, it's how you find yourself and believe in yourself....

And, if I can add... It's also love... The love for whom you are with, not having to please or think that you have to.

CW

[cassie66]

No man has ever made me orgasm either i know i can. It could be way you are penetrated? The position etc? I prefer on top i never get close unless in that postion, by the time the man has finished.

[Guest]

hey buddy. have you tried toys? maybe if you got going with some help that would open up doors to the big O!