[StillLearnin]

I'm just curious: do you really have double Ds?

The reason I ask is, if so, does your breast size intimidate him in any way? (Comparing his small penis to your big breasts) I'm wondering if that could be a factor here as well. The combination of everything could be contributing to his feeling of inadequacy.

[StillLearnin]

One more thing. You said that you can't help it if you like large penises. Sounds like you know what you like, know what you want, based on experience. That's great.

Physical needs are very important in a relationship. If your physical needs aren't being met you will build up resentment over time, more than you currently have. Maybe, if the two of you can't work it out, it's time to reevaluate your relationship and possibly move on. There are plenty of men out there that can meet your love and sexual needs. And plenty of women that will be completely happy with what he can provide.

Most of us humans seem to fall into that "love conquers all" trap and think that things will work out because you are so much in love. Reality of it is that it doesn't usually work that way, unfortunately. The trick in life is finding the perfect partner, or close enough, with compromises.

[dubbldees]

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Unfortunately, toys seems like the only answer if you are committed to your man.[/QUOTE]thats my point..he encourages the use of my dildo. and yes my toy is very big. while we are being naughty, he is extremely hot and excited and makes me tell him how much i want and like a big (edit). then when we both climax and the sex is over, he seems distant. but he insists that its okay and he's happy im satisfied! i do all in my power to make this man feel no.1 and yet i still feel he is insulted. he enjoys adult movies and always selects ones where all the guys are extremely well-hung and wants me to be vocal about what we are watching. it makes me afraid to enjoy myself and has put a strain on our relationship. i am a dedicated woman but dont push big (edit) in my face and then be mad that i like them! im really trying my best!

[dubbldees]

I'm just curious: do you really have double Ds?

The reason I ask is, if so, does your breast size intimidate him in any way? (Comparing his small penis to your big breasts) I'm wondering if that could be a factor here as well. The combination of everything could be contributing to his feeling of inadequacy.

yes i am very large breasted. i never thought about my breast size being an issue. only because he loves them and also encourages me to wear revealing and provocative tops. he likes me to go bra-less and wear plunging necklines. but why would my boobs affect his confidence about what he has in his pants? i mean, its not like i have a penis..i think that alot of this is due to my ex-botfriend that is 'ABSOLUTELY" not an issue for me.

[StillLearnin]

Well, when he sees the porn, with the bigger guys, sliding between those double Ds, and he goes to try it, he realizes how small he is, and doesn't get the full effect of the head of his penis showing itself at the top of your breasts (which is totally hot, btw). That could be disappointing, and discouraging, for him.
I'm just brainstorming here...

[dubbldees]

Well, when he sees the porn, with the bigger guys, sliding between those double Ds, and he goes to try it, he realizes how small he is, and doesn't get the full effect of the head of his penis showing itself at the top of your breasts (which is totally hot, btw). That could be disappointing, and discouraging, for him.
I'm just brainstorming here...

as long as he is hot and horny, he wants to to tell him i want well-hung men to have sex with me. he insists that i watch the screen and tell him how big the guys are while he has intercourse with me for a few minutes..then when im really hot, he gets out the toy and we fool around while i please him orally and he pleases me with my toy..it gets hot and heavy and i say what ever he wants to hear! but as soon as he cums...the party is over!..he wants me to want bigger men while he is horny..but not when he isnt!...he confuses me!..i do prefer well-hung men, but its not that important to me as our relationship...he seems to be shoving it down my throat!..(no pun intended)

[Hopeless Dork]

Sounds like he is deeply hurting and trying to find a way to deal with the pain by getting sexual pleasure out of the humiliation. You sitting there telling a 3 inch penis having man that you love big penises and the guys on screen are so yummy with their big things (even him asking you to do this ) is humiliating...

And instead of crying into a pillow he's found a way to get off on it, but once the orgasm is over, he goes back to feeling the shame and humiliation.


It reminds me of a woman that posted here that insisted her man watch porn while they had sex, she wanted him to tell her how tight the girls vagina on the screen was to stare at it while being in her... since she didn't feel like her vagina would ever be tight enough to satisfy him. It hurt her feelings, but she felt like she was helping him have something (in fantasy even) that she felt she wasn't providing.

If your man's preference changed, and he liked athletic female bodies with small toned chests and wanted to watch porn with girls that had a body type nothing like your own... screamed oh i love firm little bitties during sex staring away from your big ones... you'd probably feel insulted.

There are men out there that find huge breasts a turn off... or that would counter a woman that cant find pleasure with a 3 inch penis, just has a slack vagina etc...

I, myself have large breasts and my boyfriend loves them, and loves me. If he didn't find my body type attractive, constantly longed for something I couldn't change... I would not be happy with that.

You've insisted your preference is bigger penis, if its something so essential to you, I don't understand why you stay... if only to make him feel emasculated (even at his request).

I know you think you are doing what he wants, telling him what he wants to hear, but the way he acts when he's not arroused should be obvious that this all very damaging.

[shaunzie89]

If you really love him, why does it matter? I've never fully understood this concept. I realize that men like to be well endowed but why it matters so much, I have no idea. Size isn't everything.

[dubbldees]

If you really love him, why does it matter? I've never fully understood this concept. I realize that men like to be well endowed but why it matters so much, I have no idea. Size isn't everything.

it matters because im not sexually satisfied and my husband has a penis issue!! nobody wants to ruin a marriage over sex but you cant tell me its not important. all i am trying to do is find a happy medium where we can both be happy sexually. seriously though...go and get a tape measure and pull out 3.5 inches...and tell me that you would be thoroughly satified with that size. i have never personally measured my hubbys penis and the length info comes from him. and its likely that he is 3 inches because most men add a little something when it comes to their penis. all i am saying is he needs to decide which side of the fence he's going to stand on. either let me be satified with my dildo or stop urging me to use it! even more crazy is the fact that we went to the adult gift store together. i had originally chosen a 7'in. vibrator but my husband insisted that i get this 10in. replica of some black porn star lex something or other. i thought this would makes us both happy, me being satisfied by the size and me satisfying him while i use it. but like i sais, while we're going at its great, but when its over he seems bummed. i dont know what to think anymore

[Guest]

If you don't mind my input. I agree with Hopeless Dork (wherever did that name come from?) It sounds like he is not confident with what nature gave him. I take it he does not have children? (in other words, proved his masculinity) Can't really see an answer here. Maybe he needs to talk to someone about his issues? We have all had issues in the past I'm sure. I know I have had some sexual psychological issues in the past.