[aja]

I can't orgaism through penetration and I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me. I've talked to my friends and family members (women) and they all say they can orgaism that way, but I can't. I even asked my husband if his ex wife could and he said yes. I am really getting frustrated. He says it's because I used to masturbate. He is the only partener I have ever had, and yes, I used to masturbate. I can orgasim through external stimulation, but not internal. What's wrong with me??

[KatieAnne]

There is nothing wrong with you at allll. You have a very lucky group of female friends who are all able to orgasm during intercourse, however there are SOOO many women who can't. its extremely common. i've found it works best if you are on top so you can control the depth and speed (on top missionary is best for getting an orgasm) and then just work up to other positions from there. Masturbating is actually good for orgasm. you need to know how to please your body before you can expect someone else to do it for you lol...good luck and dont feel discouraged!

[kms]

Agreed, there's nothing wrong with you - it's very common. I personally can't orgasm while being on top since there's not enough external stimulation, but missionary or on the side works quite well since his body is rubbing against me. You might also try using a vibrator during sex to see if that helps (like a bullet or egg) - small and won't get in the way but will help provide the stimulation you need.

[Hopeless Dork]

If you can bring yourself to orgasm externally with your hand, do that while having sex if your on top of him, rub yourself to orgasm that way you can feel yourself orgasming with his penis inside of you, see if you get more internal sensations. In order to orgasm easier through penetration alone, practice masturbating that way.. with as little clit stimulation as you can or mimic that of body contact (just light pressure with your whole hand) once you can bring yourself to do that way, it will be much easier to do it with your partner.

But keep in mind that not all women orgasm through vaginal only stimulation with minimal clitoral contact. The good news is, you orgasm , and many women don't experience it at all. I orgasm through both, while I prefer the internal feeling of an orgasm its not because its more pleasurable, its probably just an emotional thing. So what I mean to say is, you are not so much missing out too too much at all.

But if you are curious, google some gspot info and try practicing some techniques, not all women find it pleasurable, some don't find it pleasurable at first then come to later, and some hit the jackpot immediatly. Worth a shot.

[nsharonew]

Yup, they are right, you are normal. There are a couple of ways to orgasm, and some woman simply can't have a g-spot orgasm (although I can, and not clitoral, weird, huh?) Does it make you enjoy sex less? Does it make you feel less about your man? about.com has some awesome articles about this very subject.

[aja]

I talked to my husband more and he says it really doesn't bother him, which I thought it did. A problem that I've been having is that intercourse feel REALLY good but after a while I can't feel anything, it's like I get numb. The funny thing is he says the same thing happens to him. So we've both decided not to worry about the way either of us orgasam (until the day comes for us to try to have kids). And we both agree we should mix things up a bit and not to overdo a postition and hopefully that will fix our sensetivity issue.

[alicat]

I have only orgasmed through penetration a handful of times. On the other hand (LOL) hubby can and does bring me to multiple orgasms in other ways. Shoot, I can orgasm just by him suckin on my boobs so I figure the trade off is well worth it

just enjoy the orgasms however they occur

[whenkissescollide]

I have the same problem. I even asked a doctor about it. And he said its normal for most women.

[luckyladie88]

the absolute only time i have ever orgasmed during sex was when i manually stimulated myself. i know multiple women that can't orgasm from intercourse alone. i started masturbating really young too though, and i've always wondered whether that had an effect on it...

[Lyn]

I orgasm through pushing up enabling clitoral stimulation. Once I'm finished - it doesn't take long, hubby can go for it. End result - 2 very happy chappies!