[kathleen89]

What do you all think about faking it? Is it okay? Is it unfair to the guy?

Just curious!

I do it sometimes, but not too often. I think sex is still enjoyable even if I don't have an orgasm, so I guess I make noise anyway. lol

[SinisterUrge]

Screaming is easy. Faking pubococcygeus spasms will require some work*


*If he doesn't know/care what a PC muscle is, then don't bother. But why waste your time with that guy? (Its 2009 and relationships have changed, it is assumed that guys must lick the kitty and be able to find a G-spot without a map)

[marycate]

Last week I meet with six women for an afternoon and we got on to this subject. Out of the seven of us we all had faked we had when we hadn't and five of us had faked we hadn't when we had so he didn't stop! The latter is somewhat harder, but very naughty and therefore very nice! My husband cant always tell, guess he is caught up in his 'Own little world' too much lol

[Hopeless Dork]

Sinister, I am not sure what pubucokywongus spasms are lol.. but I have been curious if a guy can feel your orgasm with his penis. When I come with my bf in me, its so strong and throbbing and I've wondered if that is just sensations I can feel or if he can feel it doing that too?

I don't fake it, faking it is bad news. When I come, I always dote on my boyfriend and tell him how much he pleased me. On the rare occasion that I don't orgasm (usually because of tired or something, is rare lol) I don't pretend to have had one. I think that just confuses guys if you fake it, they wont have any idea of what really pleases you I would imagine.

[2wayst]

Isn't faking it a form of lie?

I also think that it may confuse the guy. What if you it got to the point where you had to fake it all of the time? Wouldn't you finally get to the point where you had to fess up to the lie? Someone assumed that the guy should be able to lick the kitty and know where the G spot is. You know what they say about assuming something, don't you? Even if he did lick the kitty would he know how to do it in the way that you get the most out of it. Would he know the right amount of pressure or where to apply it that is best for you? Every body is different and what is pleasurable to one might be painfull to another. Even your body changes with your monthly cycle so what was pleasuable to you one day may be painful the next. He doesn't know when that change happens unless you tell him. I'd have to say that if you are willing to teach him and he is willing to do whatever you desire sexually then by all means go for it. Are you having sex to just have sex or are you having sex to get to the big O? If it's for the big O then you are going to teach him your body.

Some of you ladies ask if the guy could feel it when you climaxed, well that depends on the people that are having sex. Some of the knowing has to do with if your bodys are in motion or not. The man usually stops moving when he climaxs which makes it easy to feel his. The woman usually keeps moving until after her climax is pretty much over and she usually wants the man to keep moving until her climax is pretty much over. So what do you want him to do. Stop moving so that he might feel you climax or for him to keep going and just wait for you to tell him that he can stop now because you climaxed? I think you'll choose the last option. I know that if I climax but I don't stop moving she has to ask me if I made it.

[WildChild]

Both women and men's bodies tend to naturally go still at orgasm. Women do have muscle spams which are involuntary. Writhing and failing and such is Hollywood more than womanhood.

Don't fake it. It can feel great even if you don't cum and how will you communicate your needs if you can't be honest?

Lab studies have found that very few men are perceptive enough to tell, perhaps because they've been mislead so often? It doesn't serve you or him to fake it.

[rcoreyus]

I don't think it is ever a good idea to fake. If he finds out, he will (correctly) feel lied to as well as inadequate. If he doesn't find out, he won't learn what you really like - a loss for you AND for him.

If you aren't going to have an orgasm in this session, just let him know when you want to stop. He shouldn't expect you to have one absolutely every time - though he can certainly try.

[nightqueen]

I think faking is a bad idea. I've never faked it and never understood why women would. If it's not working for me I let my husband know. I can't pretend that I'm satisfied when I'm not. I really wouldn't feel good about myself doing that, and I would feel I was lying. JMHO.

[logic_XY]

I always fake it.

[WildChild]

Why??