[Steph33]

I think you're done all right and more. My BF loves the whole dress, lingerie, anywhere, anytime thing. He's nuts for me all the time.

But I admit porn is not a factor in out exchange. Sounds like (maybe) he should see a Dr to be sure all him plumbing is working. If it is, he's more addicted to fantasy porn than a real person (possibly things you would not enjoy and not do). That requires another kind of doctor.

But you've given enough and done enough, time for him to admit and repair. And that "hurt ego" thing for avoiding talking about sex is BS. You suffer, he causes, he needs to fess up and fix it.

Period.

I'm grateful mine isn't into porn and doesn't want to be involved with it. At least with that my grandmother's advice to me when we moved in together seems to work fine:

"Be a total in the bedroom and he'll always be happy. If you're not, somebody else will be."

She's in her 80s !!

[Josephlin101]

This is an old thread, maybe kjax016 won't see it, but I still want to say something.
For sex, if I had a partner like you, I would be very happy and would cherish you. You work very hard to please him, even make yourself to be more desirable. You've done enough. No, I don't think it's your change that make him intimidated. Based on what you said, I think it's the porn. Research (sorry, I'm a psychologist) shows that people who watch porn are more likely to devalue their partners and relationships.
I wish my partner were a bit more like you on this aspect. She's nice, but just not into sex as much as I do. In fact, I was looking for some place to vent a bit and came across this thread.
It's been so long. If you read this message, would you give an update of your situation? No matter what, I hope everything is well with you. You're a great partner, at least on this aspect. Don't forget that.