[Daisie]

the problem is that i want him so bad... we see eachother once a month luckily.. so when we meet i'm so nervous... i've been wanting to end this a long time ago but i just don't know how cause everytime i see him i can't help to be with him, he buys me with his words... he says that he loves me he misses me... blah blah blah.. i don't know whats the point cause i give him everyting that he wants. He says that he's not lying but like i said i don't trust him.

We used to have chemistry but now sex is just an awkward time that never ends, the thing is that i've been with another guys in this time and they werent any better it's like i'm with those guys but i think of him all the time and what's worse i compare them to him.

By the way it was great to hear that i'm not the only one who doesn't enjoy 3 hours of sex! i thought i might be losing it lol

[CHANDLERS WISH]

the problem is that i want him so bad... we see eachother once a month luckily.. so when we meet i'm so nervous...

You've answered your own question... "you feel nervous" so hense your problem....

And, once a month, that's not a committed relationship where you can relax and feel emotional? Think about it.

He loves you? Pftttt... smart cheeky ****e... If he did, it' wouldn't be once a month whilst he's out there getting it on, left right and centre, your intuition is doing you good you already know this part.

Sweet.........................

You don't have to perform for him, conform, allow his needs, who are you? What are you about?

Don't you "really, secretly, want to cum with someone whom shows you emotional, love?"... not Oh I love you, i am here once a month whilst doing others, and well I am on drugs so i don't cum, ( possibility) does not some things stop a man from cumming (men), alcohol, drugs?

I recall I am 45 afterall.

Stand tall woman..... where has this man been? The other 29 days?

Mean't in the nicest possible way...

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Joy
sounds like he is a bad match for you. you don't really enjoy the sex, he is into himself more than he is you, and you aren't really dating after all this time

Smells also "bad boy"....

just to add I agree with Joy's thoughts there...

CW

[Joy]

ok you say other guys are not any better you need to be more assertive for yourself and explain what feels good and what doesn't feel good. Its ok it wont kill a man to tell him you do't like it. I know you think you might hurt his ego or pride but delivered properly.

having sex with somone is about sharing your body with that person and pleasure for both not pleassure for one.

Maybe you have to explore your own body more so you know what you like so you can tell any man you are with.

[paveguy64]

One thing that could contribute to this is antidepressants. One of the most common side effects of SSRIs like Prozac, Celexa,etc., is anorgasmia. Unfortunately, I know this from experience. It can be very frustrating for me, but my GF is quite happy when I can go for hours without cumming. Another rare side effect is priapism, an erection that doesn't go away. Don't know if any of this info helps, but thought you might be interested.

[Autumnbinature]

with the right person sex is effortless its just there cause the passion the feelings the emotion is all there. That chemisty that spark is there that hunger for your lover to be inside of you.

NOT ALWAYS TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my husband and I are soulmates but sexually we arent very compattable. he is well endowed but i am small, he has high libdo very high i have a very low libido. we love each other but we have sexual problems. because we love each other we work on these problems and try to make it work for us.

[Hopeless Dork]

I totally agree with you autumn. Sometimes you can effortless effortless hot chemistry sex with someone that you have no connection to outside of the bed. Sometimes you can have crazy good sex and totally hot chemistry with the one you love and still manage to have some things to work on occasionally, but when the love is there, its worth working on those little things to make both partners happy.