[sfa289]

I have a very unusual prob..i m not getting it wat to do..me n my husband try sex but we can not reach to intercourse.. wat da prob i can not understand...my hus band try it a lot.. but before it would done completely.. he got released actually..sometimes...may be he can not understand how to do may be da timing prob.. or may b do i have a prob...... like imperforate hymen..............is dis type of hymen... create prob to sex.... but i have my periods regularly.. from 12/13 years of age...waht shud i do i m not getting kindly guide wat shud i do..?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Okay so there's a communication prob here with words.

So yes and no ok?

So you can't reach intercourse....

Yes or no..

He can't get it in?

You can't have an orgasm?

So he tries to have intercourse but cums before more importantly before he gets it in?

Okay hymen so your both virgins? And how old are you both?

And, is he cumming playing around with you with his penis around you, but not exactly in you and cums?

Does not make any difference that you can't express excactly what you want we can get the picture, just write under each line here in a different colour we are here to help.

CW

[sfa289]

So you can't reach intercourse....

yes we cant yet..

He can't get it in?
yes

You can't have an orgasm?
yes

So he tries to have intercourse but cums before more importantly before he gets it in?
yes

Okay hymen so your both virgins? And how old are you both?
yup we are. i m 25 n he is 28

And, is he cumming playing around with you with his penis around you, but not exactly in you and cums?
yes.

he try to gets inside me but as he told me he cant..becuz dats too tight..theres no space to insert such things.. u know.. dats y he got released out side...

we do sex with diff style or position...but we had not reach to intercourse..yet.

my background is quite religious.i cant discuss dis thing to n e one .i got engaged at da age of 19 n got married to da same guy last year..we r hapy together but dis prob creats so much stress between us.
do he has some prob or do i have..? i ll b very thankful if u guide me.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So you can't reach intercourse....

yes we cant yet..

He can't get it in?
yes

You can't have an orgasm?
yes

So he tries to have intercourse but cums before more importantly before he gets it in?
yes

Okay hymen so your both virgins? And how old are you both?
yup we are. i m 25 n he is 28

And, is he cumming playing around with you with his penis around you, but not exactly in you and cums?
yes.

he try to gets inside me but as he told me he cant..becuz dats too tight..theres no space to insert such things.. u know.. dats y he got released out side...

we do sex with diff style or position...but we had not reach to intercourse..yet.

my background is quite religious.i cant discuss dis thing to n e one .i got engaged at da age of 19 n got married to da same guy last year..we r hapy together but dis prob creats so much stress between us.
do he has some prob or do i have..? i ll b very thankful if u guide me.

Okay your 25 and him , 28, your both Virgins..

He has tried to insert his penis in you "both Virgins" and it won't go in.

Do you use lube?

Does he conduct foreplay before hand or just try straight away?

Have you ever experiemented on your own?

Do you think you would love sex? Or, do you feel it's scary?

CW

[sfa289]

yeah he try to insert but it wont go inside.

we usually do not use lube. coz we think we got enough wet....

he usually like to have a hand job first to warm up him...other dan that he does nt conduct foreplay..usually he try straight away..

i never exp on my own.. cause it feels such a fake thing..i cant get arousal..but ...
i don consider sex as a scary thing.... actually i enjoy it a lot with my husband.. but hard luck ... at the time when we are on our peak..it all go insane..becuz he cant get it in...

[WildChild]

As a sexually inexperienced woman you need foreplay and lots of it. Lots of cuddling, kissing, touching, playing with your breasts, your vulva, your clitorus and him fingering your vagina to help get you very aroused.

Just being wet isn't enough, you need to be fully aroused. He will have to learn to control himself, to delay his ejaculation. There is quite a bit of information on here about that from some of the men. Why not do a search on that?

In the meantime get some lube to help things along.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thanks for your reply.

You may be wet, but you may need a hand on the outside and he needs perhaps not to masterbate before hand and go very, very slow as he is trying to insert himself in you, sort of place his body part there and just stay on the outside for a minute going round and round the area, slight movement in, and continue same, then slightly more, etc with lube on the outside.

I think he's dying to get in there and pushes and pushes instead of taking his time slowly, and he's dying to get in cause hes really turned on with your handjob..

Slowly....................

He should be thinking of you too, not just him, and so slowly (with lube), you can ditch it later, place some on his finger and go around the outside of you and then again slowly use his finger, inside a little then replace with his manhood..

He's too eager, I think...

And, he definately should be passionately kissing you and your body, and touching you, even if it's just running his hands down your body, so you feel the intimacy...

CW

[sfa289]

thanks for ur replies n cooperation..i ll try to follow ur advice..but da prob is my hubby don like to talk abt dis topic..he usually avoid dis matter.. dat we cant reach to the intercourse yet..he got annoy by the topic..he got angry..sometimes he say dat as a man.. he consider dis thing as a failar..i m much wory abt this . that this shud be happen bewteen us..off course we r married together..i m so tensed abt dis..dat y cant we raech there.. but he is not..i talk to him an a friendly manner..as a friend..coz we have to closely understand each other..but he is not worry abt dis..he think if it is not happening..then its ok ..

sometimes i thought there is a prob .. some medical prob .may b as i told u..a type of hymen problem....but it is actually not.. then may b he has...some prob.. but every thing seems to be fine... instead of this .. that we cant reach to there.. n he don like to talk abt dis..n e ways i ll try to over come dis...

[WildChild]

I think the biggest problem is lack of experience and knowledge. We aren't born knowing this and it talks time, practice and communication to get good at it. Sex should be fun and pleasurable for both of you. There is nothing wrong with reading soem books about it to learn more and get some ideas.