[justmeinlove]

I've only ever had sex once and i loved it but since then ive felt like no one wants to have sex with me. i have a lot of guy friends who tell me im beautiful all the time and they make out with me and fool around with me but none of them will actually have sex with me, ive asked them why and ive got everything from "i dont want to ruin our friendship" to "i dont think im in the right stage of my life to be able to have sex with anyone, let alone a friend" but most of them didnt sound like what they were saying was really the reason. most of them tell me they want to, but none of them will. is there something wrong with me? please help

P.S. im going to Europe in a few months and my guy friends keep telling me i need to have sex with a European boy while im there. is this something i should do?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

My darling.

Sex does not mean "love", Just because you have tried it, and that was I think only recently, not foreplay but sex, doesn't mean you have to experiement and continue and I am going to throw a spanner in the works.

I have read your other posts, you are only 13...

Guys don't want to have sex with a 13 year old, because it's rape in most Countries if not all..

This is why I believe that they are all saying no, nothing to do with you.

Chill and wait, and be patient... Just enjoy your friends as "friends"... There is plenty of time for sex.

There is nothing wrong with you but age...

These boys don't want to end up in a boys home for rape, because that is what it would be called if your family found out and you may not tell but someone will.

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

P.S. im going to Europe in a few months and my guy friends keep telling me i need to have sex with a European boy while im there. is this something i should do?

Why not? If you're in England drop me a line

[WildChild]

Hi Annony, still up to no good? LOL. You don't qualify dear, you are a man, not a boy.

Justme, listen to CW she is a wise lady and is absolutely right. You are a young lady and have a lots and lots of time for sex. Sex isn't love and having sex with someone doesn't necessarily draw them closer to you. Especially not at this age. There is far more to it than the physical act, there are emotional aspects that can be difficult to gage until time has passed.

Enjoy making out and learning what arouses you and what feels good. Learn what arouses the boys you are with but take it easy, the rest will come, there is no need to rush it. The boys who are hold back really are doing you a favor and giving you more respect than you may be giving yourself. Sex can be for fun, it can be part of love, it can just plain old horniness but it is best when it's all combined. You may not believe it but you have a ton of growing up to do yet. Don't be in too much of a hurry. Look at all the older women trying to slow down the clock and seem younger, while you young things are trying to rush into adulthood. Just enjoy where you are and what you are right now. It sounds like you have some good freinds who really care about you.

[Richard S]

Every woman has to deal with the issue of the type of male attention she wants vs. what she actually gets. It's true no matter how old or young you are. I don't want to be one more person telling you to just give it time, but that is good advice.

Us grownups live in scary times. Either we don't have a job or we are scared of losing the one we have. Then we read the news and it says that girls your age are perfectly willing to give a guy head because they think it's necessary to do that to make him like you at all. If the social environment you live in is actually like that, I would say don't believe the hype. It's OK to give it time and it's OK to "just be friends".

On the other hand, if you want to solve the problem by just throwing yourself at someone, it's your life. Just don't go all the way without protection, and don't let him take pictures of you with his cell phone cam. You don't want that drama.

[justmeinlove]

let me just let you all know. i live in a country where 14 is the age of consent, and i turn 15 this year

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thanks for the clarification, guess you were 13 when you joined going on 14, in 2008 huh.

Well, then if your almost 15, maybe the boys are Virgins themselves, or they really do see you as a friend and really don't want to "just have sex" for the sake of having sex, rather do that when they are in a relationship with someone they like.

That makes sense regarding their comments to you regarding Europe.

i have a lot of guy friends who tell me im beautiful all the time and they make out with me and fool around with me but none of them will actually have sex with me,

Don't be too keen and even fool around with them, they are "friends", why not find someone you like and take it from there...

In one way they are good friends for not "using you", in my opinion but in another sense do friends make out? They get what they want? And, that's all they need.. I assume make out includes oral sex on them.

CW

[justmeinlove]

another thing to clear up real quick,

the first time i had sex was about 8 or 9 months ago and the guys im talking about are 19 and 22 (im mainly talking about the 22 year old one though.)

[justmeinlove]

oh and i forgot to say this to,

i dont give them oral but i do give hand jobs to one of them

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Do you think that maybe a 22 year old is looking for a solid relationship, a future wife, not just sex? Maybe he doesn't see you as an Adult because you are 15..

Why don't you tell us more about him?

Like how many times a week you see him and if you guys do anything together, or do you only visit him at his place once a week for instance..

CW