[CarmenJuliet]

Ok so my bf wants to have sex all the time, and I don't...when I do have sex with him he gets bored easily so it doesn't last long, and makes me feel bad.

What should I do to hold his attention?

[there4u]

probably you dont act genuinely interested in him so he loses interest knowing that you are having sex for the sake of having sex.

he is horny all the time and you keep refusing him. and than when you actually decide to go for it, he starts feeling detached coz of all the denial before.

[Iseulda]

What exactly do you mean by all the time?

I ask because whenever I hear this kind of thing I always remember a Woody Allen movie (I'm pretty sure it was Annie Hall) where he and she are talking separately to a therapist - She says something like "He always wants sex. We have sex all the time! Three times a week!!" - then cut to him and he is saying "She never wants sex. We hardly ever have sex! Only three times a week!!" I'm not making light of your situation, I'm just pointing out that it is all relative. You may feel he is pestering you and he may feel he is not asking as often as he'd like.

And when you say 'he gets bored', what exactly do you mean? He stops, he fails to climax? How does he express this boredom to you? Does he tell you that or are you guessing?

What should you do to hold his attention during sex? Ask him - ask him to tell you what he likes, ask him would he like to try anything in particular you haven't done before. Don't promise him you'll do anything he wants (because you have to want to do it too, obviously), but ask him for suggestions. Ask him what you do already that he enjoys best. Communication is key.

From what you are saying I'm hearing that you want to give him quality sex when you do have sex so that, even if that's not quite as often as he might like, it'll certainly be worth the wait for him. I think you've got the right idea.

[AlleyWay]

Try to be more willing. Try making him reach and orgasm in different ways. Whether it's sex, bj, handjob, etc. Try to explore new aspects of love making.

[shweedart]

bottle his sexual appetite and send it my way! i'll feed some to my fella!

[WildChild]

LOL Shweedart, I was just thinking - how can he want too much? Most seem to be more talk than action after the first couple months

[Guest]

bottle his sexual appetite and send it my way! i'll feed some to my fella!

wow...

[shweedart]

Usually its all go at first then as your relationship progresses it chills out slightly, he's chilled out and i've stayed the same! poor guy

[WildChild]

Yep that's it exactly. The thrill of the chase is over the, the newness wears off. They know you want them pretty much all the time, so they just cool off. The only men that seem to keep wanting it are the ones who's women don't want it/don't like it.

Ah the world is a funny place

[njman2008]

I disagree. I have been in a relationship for 6 years now. I could have sex twice a day. My g/f only wants sex maybe twice a week. So sad.