[goodguy28]

Oh, completely forgot tht I never responded to wildchild's question, I do masterbate fairly often, although not as much as I used to(every or every other day), so much on my mind, and its hard to find the time to relax and really knock out a good one.

[WildChild]

LOL, every or every other day, isn't all that much. I've got a man who is past the mid 40 mark, when he's bored, 4 or 5 times a day isn't unusual. Interestingly though he only wants intercourse once a day at most. Whatever works.
I've got a couple of suggestions/observations here. In the flush of youth I had men who could easily handle 5 or 6 times in a row, as they mature men slow down quite a bit for most. Women vary, personally, the times I've been "off" were when I didn't feel loved or cared about. As you get older, you should mature as a lover, get better at making love rather than just having sex - not that there is anything wrong with that, but you should develop a broader range of abiltities and experience.

There are some great possibilities with this, why not a get a few books and suggest the two of you do some exploring? I suggest, The New Tantra Simple & Sexy and One Hour Orgasm and Going Down, for starters. There are simply dozens.

Turning sex into more of an event sometimes, even a full day build up can be great. The two of you could start with planning what will be your erotic/sensual date ahead of time. Plan a menu you can shop for and prepare together. It would really good if you could do at least part of that at the farmers market outdoors together. Selecting fresh ripe veggies and fruits together, doing some taste testing-feed each other a bite? Candles are a must and colors are important. If it's at your place make sure everything is squeeky clean before she gets there. Fresh sheets, run the pillows through the dryer to make the fresh, no dust in the the curtains or on the blinds - make a love nest with no distractions in it. A nice wine or favorite light drink (drunk sex is NOT erotic or loving). Plan food that isn't heavy and lots of finger foods? Taste, texture, scent, licking your or each others fingers, all is part of a build up.

Out together get some bunches of fresh flowers, fresh baked bread? Take a walk, a bike ride, roller skate - some thing fun, active and vibrant together. Or if it's more up your alley, a museum, the public gardens, the zoo?

Then back to the nest to prepare your meal. Lots of tasting and kissing and touching. A long shower or tub bath with candles and play - But this is all build up, no jumping on each other like bunny rabbits. Then some sensuous play exploring each other. Is she multi? I'm taking a guess she may be. Take a look at the techniques for bringing her up and down repeatedly in One Hour Orgasm, get her into an orgasmic state, that level of arousal where a woman can cum over and over, but don't push it way over the top. Take your time. When you do get to intercourse it should be a really intense joining. Don't rush through it. No need for gymnastics, just sensuous love making. Then a nice come down, talking, kissing, playing.

Part of the reason she may want so much, is a desire for intensity, this can be a different way of getting it. It's move it more into an arena of an entire mind/body/emotional experience than flat out intercourse. It's no something you would do every day but give it a try? See what happens?

[Inmydreams]

Well, I am kind of the same way about oral. It doesn't really do much for me. But it sure IS hot to have a guy who has no inhibitions about doing it. If a guy wants to do that, then great, I totally enjoy it. I think girls are much more self conscious about their area down there than guys. We feel like we are always under alot of pressure to look and smell perfect. Even if a girl is very sexually secure and open, which I am sure you both are, it can kind of make a girl self conscious to have someone's face that close to that area, always wondering if everything is "okay down there." Just telling you how women are usually thinking about it (at least from my experience).

Sounds like you two have a great relationship, the kind I hope to find. As far as your concern to satisfy her. If she is having sex with you that much and can't wait to get her hands on her, then she likes you ... alot, and I don't think you have much to worry about. Just make sure you keep it interesting and exciting in other ways - like taking her out somewhere totally new, buying her flowers, surprise her by doing different, unexpected things. Girls like that stuff I think because it makes us feel like we mean more to our guy than just as an object for sex that they could get anywhere, (even though that in and of itself is awesome). As much as I hate to admit it, we like gifts and stuff, as long it isn't overly mushy stuff, lol!

Just a few thoughts from a woman's perspecive. Hope you can use. And good luck in your relationship. I really hope it keeps going well for you.