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I can't sleep so I was reading on another site and this other lady was talking about her doctor saying that after a year of no sex her hymen tighen? I'm in a total HUH? I always thought once that door was open? There is no closing it..... That lady was complaining that after a year of no sex she and the new partner? can't finish because the wall tighten too much.

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Sounds more like she became friged, she closed up..

The "wall" has nothing to do with the Hymen... She was tense, she tightened up, he shouldn't have complained, guys love when you can hold him inside and he can't get out...

Sounds also that he doesn't know what he's talking about but more to the point, he shouldn't have put her down and complained about not being able to finish, rather be patient with her and let her learn to relax again with her.

I didn't have sex for 12 months and then again after, for 12 months and she works her magic still so don't worry about it.

CW

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oh no no

she was writing asking about how she could fix the problem? Because he couldn't get in . She wrote about how the hymen line thicken. But that sounded totally odd to me because I've always thought "hymen" once its broken its broken. she hasn't had sex in a year and it's that horrible. hahahaha I'm dreading the thought if I ever have " sex ...sex " am I going to be in the same position as her. My first , last and only time was 3 years ago. urghh scaryyy

Well, I have heard about how if you don't " do the deed " the vagina muscles tightens up ". But I never heard of the "hymen" thickening after a year of no sex..........

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Lol.... load of codbull ( can i say that?)

Best I can say to you is this.

It's like riding a bike, you all of a sudden remember everything and how to do it, haha.

Her Hymen may have "swelled" at the thought of sex and she may have a short vagina, from the entry to the end, some women do.. I have read a bit about it because of other's that have posted.

This may have been her problem.

But, it's not your concern sweet.

Your not going to have "sex" you and going to be with someone whom understands, is patient and works with you and allows you to be free and enjoy , right? Yessum.

CW

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thought so

hahahahah yes you can say that! I don't think the system would consider that comment as " swearing ". yeah, I thought so ur hymen can't rethicken. That totally made no ounce of sense. hahaha yeah, i know its her business. It's just she made it sound as if it can thicken to rebirth the virgin. lol*

No ...no ....the thought of that much pain again ahhaha sound's scary ......

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ahhhh, so that's your fear, is that why you haven't had sex in 3 years and only once?

Darlin.... When you are ready huh.

And, he will be a knight and you will know he's for real, cause he won't make you, he will be there until your ready, take it slow and well, you'll be fine.

And, um, haha, I codbull is from now on my word, don't you use it ok....

CW

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cw: oh oh oh

guess what? remember i was telling you about my 6ft italain? it's his birthday this coming up saturday. he's comin back into my town again........from a more experience person's point of view? ahhaahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa the butt-head wants to meet in a hotel? ARE MY SENSES WRONG? SOMEHOW ALL MY SIGNALS R FLAGGING THAT THIS MAN AHHAAAAAAAAAAA WANTS A ONE NIGHT STAND........meeting in a hotel for the first time? sounds freaky

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cw: 3 years/?

I was bored so i gave that guy that this girl ( who was my friend at the time ) introduced me too. I didn't plan for it to happen that way. He kind of forced it upon me. All my friends called it " rape " but I couldnt bring myself to putting him in jail. I never went back to that town again nor do i talk to him or her. It's been 3 years since i talked to him or her.

He was my frist and the s.o.b asked me " how come there's no blood "? Are you sure you didn't give it up to someone esle?? Those were the utmost insulting words I have ever heard in my life.

Well, there has been few offerings since him but i can't bring myself to you know.... but then every so often i'd wonder " what if that day comes"? is it going to hurt physically like the first time???""

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Sweetheart....

He was your first, yes i now remember, he also ... "we know", so it's not here or there to you in that regard...

But, he is a cow, he is a coward, he used and abused you, and the s.o.b. also asked if you really were a Virgin ....

I won't post what happened after that and what your feeling, but you know what, DON'T DO IT.

He is a (can i say that?) bought to find out...

You need to allow others in your life, "use a condom", every time and tell them because you only had sex once and you don't want to get pregnant that's all you need to say at this stage.

Do not let this man treat you like dirt a second time okay?

As for will it hurt physically like the first time? Probably un-comfortable a bit, but if you are "in love" , it will be different.

Don't be scared to have sex, don't be scared to enjoy your life, Think Pamela Anderson okay.

Use a Condom, I gave you the reasons to answer.

But please love, please, do not let this guy near you again, he's a user, abuser, thinks he's smart, took your virginity and also more than that.

Ok.

CW

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is all of that response about the ex? or the new mr.maybe?

The ex? I've been lied, cheated on and abused ( physically and mentally ). I'm never coming 30 feet near him. oh nooo the 6 ft Italain is a different guy. It's the guy i told you that is a friend of another friend of mine. I never met him. He lives 2 towns away from mine. He's been visiting my town quite regularly lately. I walked passed him in person but he didnt recongize me. But yeah recently he messaged me saying he wants to meet me and its his birthday. He kinda hahah wants to meet at a hotel.

somehow, hahaaaaaaaaaaaaaa i didnt sense a disapproval from you. You saying " use a condom " is kind of a big sister approval ahhaaaaaaaaaaaa