[lizlumbee]

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im terribly confused. i usually get "excited" over small things (kisses, dirty talk, etc.) but when it comes down to sex, i cant seem to get as excited. it usually takes forever for him to get it in. we usually have to use lotion or something. then usually during sex i feel no pleasure, it doesnt hurt, but i get no real pleasure. is there something wrong with me??

[Swiftus]

You aren't alone. My wife is the same way.

Some women are not stimulated internally and need some sort of clitoral stimulation in order to feel pleasure.

Also Lotion = BAD! Please go to the grocery store or pharmacy and get some KY Liquid. Start off with the basic stuff before you step up to the warming or tingling lubes.

[lizlumbee]

yea! thats wat i ended up getting! haha. i felt kinda wierd having lotion inside of me!! but thankss SO much!!!!

[Swiftus]

If you are using condoms, you never want to use anything petroleum based either. Hence why vaseline is forbidden for this use.

I'd suggest you discover your own body and see if you are able to feel pleasure in other ways and try to incorporate it into your routine. Many women use their fingers or a small vibe on their clit during intercourse.

[lizlumbee]

yea, i have a horrible time using condoms, it really hurts. it like rubs on my skin, and its a horrible feeling!! it hurts so bad. so i really cant use condoms.

[Swiftus]

you can never use too much lube imho.

A girl I dated in high school was the same way. And this was before the internet told us any better.... we would break more condoms than you could imagine. This lead to a few scares. It turns out that she doesn't get wet until she hits her orgasm (which took a long time and a green leafy substance+booze to find). And if/when she did, it would be an absolute flood.

Get to know your own body first. Find out what excites you. Because you are worried about this stuff, you are only going to hold yourself back even more. I find that women have trouble with orgasms because they can't turn off the voices in their head like a man can. Even now in my 30s, my wife and I find that our best sex comes when we have a two hour window and she has had a few glasses of cabernet.

[lizlumbee]

thankss! and condoms don't break they jus refuse to go in. and even with like stuff on it (lubricants) its really hard (no pun inteneded) to go in.

and im not a big fan of like, playing with myself so i really cant like find wat makes me excited cause al i can usually think bout is why am i touching myself.

and the only time its usually like really easy to go it (wet) is after bout 5 mins of it, when i guess i cum cause i never really tell, he has to tell me.

[Inmydreams]

Personally, I think you are ejaculating, not orgasming. They both feel good but can be quite different experiences.

[Marthav]

Be sure to use a water based lube, others can either cause yeast infections, destroy condoms and sex toys. KY is just the tip of the iceberg, google it online and you can find a wide variety.

[lizlumbee]

i dnt feel either, the only thing i feel is him goin in and out and around. haha. like, it dnt hurt (until like 4 rounds l8r). but idk :[

and okayy Marthav :]