[Lady16]

You neeeddd sex!!! ..
but if your not ready emotionally then its no good doing it with anyone so you need to wait till you find someone you feel comfy around and you will just no when the time is right!!
just masterbate often if thats what you need..
do you have a vibrator babe? they are very usful and using one may cut down how often you need pleasure..?
hope that helped but dont worry your totally normal i promise xx

[ItsASecret]

Secret, I know you aren't into Tantirc thought but you might try one of their techniques of clearing you mind and essentially thinking of nothing during sex, just feeling. I've done it successfully but find it only works for me when I'm in certain place emotionally, I've not been that centered for a while. I'll look it up and give you a thumbnail on it - it won't hurt, might help , so why not give it a go?

I am very good at becoming absent minded and zoning out, I do it during sex sometimes just to see if the arousal will come and take the place of daily worries...hasn't worked so far. I am a person of reason and logic so naturally I am extremely skeptical that taking a deep breath during sex will change anything, however that said I cannot say that it will not work if I do not at least take a look. Let me know what this technique is.


Back on topic, I agree that at least using a vibrator would help with the amount of pleasure you need. That little device is quick and to the point

[Yesebel]

As for waiting, that's a choice and it's your choice, you may find in a couple of years that your not as shy as you were, due to this finding of yourself, it may bring you out more as a person, of confidence..

I'm sure in a few more years I'll be more confident. At least I hope so...

Start working on other sides of you now.. You have more intuition than you realise, once you get past your in-securities of other sides of your life, you won't have a problem finding what your looking for, but beware of the "animal kingdom" of lies and deciept, of guys your age to get what they want, you know Virgins to some guys are prizes and I know you want to be with them for a while before you try, that's probably the only way you'll establish that they love you for you and not a booty call and get hurt.

Just saying, that no matter what, we all fall victim to "I thought he loved me" somewhere in our lives, so be prepared, it may happen somewhere down the track, is all i am getting at.

Yeah, I realize some guys view virgins as a prize of sorts. Luckily I'm not out now searching for someone so I don't think guys I know know that I'm a virgin. But when I am ready to date someone, that is definitely something I'm going to have to be careful of, though I'm very sure I'll fall victim to "I though he loved me...".

You neeeddd sex!!! ..
but if your not ready emotionally then its no good doing it with anyone so you need to wait till you find someone you feel comfy around and you will just no when the time is right!!
just masterbate often if thats what you need..
do you have a vibrator babe? they are very usful and using one may cut down how often you need pleasure..?
hope that helped but dont worry your totally normal i promise xx

Well no I don't have a vibrator. Unfortunately, I still live with my very nosy mother. And she's rather conservative. I don't want to know what would happen if I had one and she found it! O__o;; Though I've been very curious about them and would want to have one...

Yesebel, Congrats on overcoming your training this far. Personally I'm not a fan of prolonged virginity but agree that who you do this with is important. In your situation approaching a male freind might be difficult, maybe start with baby steps? Start schooling your self to let sex into your conversation? Talking here could be a good place to start. Check out some erotic writing sites and start to get a feel the range of what turns people on? It will help you feel pretty 'normal', even mundane in your desires. Being horny is normal and I agree with Swiftus that if you could, some just plain out all out sex might be just what you need, but being a virgin coming from the background you do you're going to have find some other outlets. Keep masterbating, keep things juicy, until you work out the rest of this. Some man is going to find himself very lucky one day.

Most of my male friends have girlfriends anyways. ^^;

Erotic writing sites seem good. I guess I'll search for some.

Talking here has definitely been good for me, especially on the learning front. I've never really held conversations about sex so talking and looking around here's been good for me to learn.

[teenie]

I'm 22, nearly 23, and recently lost my virginity.
I was previously horny allll the time. My first time did not get me off...and i didn't get myself off for 2 days after, when i did it felt bad. Consecutively for days. So i stopped. I got less horny, markedly. Instantly and both i got put of from sexual things from lack of feeling now.

I'm just saying, i personally needed actual sex. Not physical release...i was thirsting for sex. I'm also going to say. Wait for it, you can wait...i mildy regret it only because nothing feels good anymore and a few more years of pleasure is worth the wait. Now i'm fully dependent on one person to get me off (not as good as i used to but practice should remedy that) and he lives an hour away and i see him once a week at mine and my mother watches us like a hawk- so basically i have to go from pleasing myself multiple times a day to waiting months between releases. I'm dying- but i'm also coping because i have no choice...

It's normal! I felt so un-normal and still do- but just think of all the woman jealous of us! :P

The more you do it the more horny you will be, so if you want to tone down try to steer clear of anything sexual and DISTRACT yourself, stress yourself out. That helps. Lack of sleep too. (for me anyway).

[Fallen1]

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